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Title: Abandonment Post by: LoveLove on May 30, 2014, 02:17:40 PM It's interesting... . pwBPD fear abandonment, yet, THEY are the ones who abandon us. I'm assuming they already believe in their minds that we will eventually leave once we "uncover the truth" about them. Thus, in order to protect themselves, once they feel they get close, they simply leave.
Although, I'm reading that many also come back only for the cycle to go around and around. Luckily, most will admit they have a problem and will seek help, which is always a plus! |iiii Thoughts? Title: Re: Abandonment Post by: nothing on May 30, 2014, 07:24:21 PM My experience is if I am devalued in their mind they want to abandon me to go off and do all the irresponsible, self destructive activities BPSs thrive on. It is only until they crash and burn they will come back or if you are having too much fun with out them.
Title: Re: Abandonment Post by: LoveLove on May 30, 2014, 07:29:41 PM My ex is currently in therapy ... . so I don't believe I have devalued him. However, I know that what HE initiated talking about, and I continued with, is what freaked him out, which made him pull away since he felt he had gotten too close to me. And in turn, he decided that he needed help ... .
And yes, self destructive activities - mine promised he wouldn't get another motorcycle after his accident ... . but before we stopped talking (we have no contact per the therapist right now)... . he told me that he is soon getting another motorcycle... . Such odd behavior... . |