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Title: Feel like contacting her today. Post by: Jb101 on June 01, 2014, 02:56:30 AM Part of me knows more pain would come of it.
Last wee she sent me a message in the middle of the night saying "I'll meet you in the morning in the city" (was a bit more, but basically to somebody else in another city) and a few minutes later another saying sorry, wrong person. We haven't spoken for weeks and there is no way it was an accident or I could be anywhere near the list of recent contacts for it to get confused etc. replied the next day say ok, take care. No response. I was starting to do so much better until that. Now the weekend has been wondering what she's up to now, particularly after seeing her drive past at the shops... Title: Re: Feel like contacting her today. Post by: Infared on June 01, 2014, 03:33:25 AM Sounds like she is baiting you. "Oh, it was an accident?" Yeah right. Then there is no responsibility on her part. "Whoops"... . then if you contact her, the contact is all on your emotional dime because "you contacted her on purpose". Then eventually the abuse starts... . and you end up in a whole world of pain, just because the self-centered 5-year-old wanted to know if you still wanted her (oh, she didn't want you!).
If this sounds familiar, leave your phone at home today and take a nice long walk or bike ride to a beautiful new place and take care of you. Title: Re: Feel like contacting her today. Post by: LoveLove on June 01, 2014, 01:30:03 PM Agreed - she just wanted to see if you're "still there." Don't think more about it... . remember, they have a mental disorder. It isn't "normal" behavior.
Title: Re: Feel like contacting her today. Post by: Indigo Sky on June 01, 2014, 07:32:17 PM Stay No Contact.
The only way to win (and have a great life) is not to play. Title: Re: Feel like contacting her today. Post by: JackBlacknBlue on June 01, 2014, 09:05:56 PM My uBPD friend did same thing with me. Claimed she sent text to wrong person. Don't give in to the temptation. Delete message. Forget it even happened. It is a baiting message.
Title: Re: Feel like contacting her today. Post by: corraline on June 01, 2014, 10:09:33 PM jb
that must have been hard . I use to get things sent to me that weren't meant for me in the past. sent my mind crazy. i would focus on your first statement and listen to that. "part of me knows more pain would come of it" if you know this even if its just a part of you, then i would do my best to gather what strength you have to make sure that you don't inflict more pain again. taking care of yourself. |