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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: JackBlacknBlue on June 02, 2014, 04:27:54 PM



Title: just writing to make myself feel better
Post by: JackBlacknBlue on June 02, 2014, 04:27:54 PM
Not writing this for any replies, more for myself - putting this out into the universe for my own sanity.  Have been trying to maintain the medium chill, no proactive comms.  In return I received from my upBPD an expected mix of woe is me stories, cold shoulder and now the charming personality I once knew early in the relationship.  My birthday is coming up in a few weeks so now being told that she has already made plans to celebrate my birthday.  I assume that her having made plans a few weeks in advance is a lie (she's never that on top of things) and she is just saying that she made plans already so that I will feel guilty of opting out of something already planned.  Push/Pull/Push/Pull - and the cycle continues.  I asked her to invite other people since she rarely abuses me in front of others.  I am an idiot to go to this. 


Title: Re: just writing to make myself feel better
Post by: AimingforMastery on June 03, 2014, 12:53:34 AM
Not writing this for any replies, more for myself - putting this out into the universe for my own sanity.  Have been trying to maintain the medium chill, no proactive comms.  In return I received from my upBPD an expected mix of woe is me stories, cold shoulder and now the charming personality I once knew early in the relationship.  My birthday is coming up in a few weeks so now being told that she has already made plans to celebrate my birthday.  I assume that her having made plans a few weeks in advance is a lie (she's never that on top of things) and she is just saying that she made plans already so that I will feel guilty of opting out of something already planned.  Push/Pull/Push/Pull - and the cycle continues.  I asked her to invite other people since she rarely abuses me in front of others.  I am an idiot to go to this. 

push/pull/push/pull... .

it always carries on unless they do real deal therapy. Even then no guarantee.


Title: Re: just writing to make myself feel better
Post by: Fanie on June 03, 2014, 05:44:15 AM
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