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Title: have to share this Post by: antjs on June 10, 2014, 07:06:50 AM I read this article today and first thing that reminded me of was you guys. it talks about no contact or distancing yourself as they term it in the article in a more general way towards personal problems in life with research based results. please take a minute to go through it :)
www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/06/140609113349.htm?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+sciencedaily+%28Latest+Science+News+--+ScienceDaily%29&utm_content=FaceBook Title: Re: have to share this Post by: Mutt on June 10, 2014, 09:23:19 AM Distance from conflict may promote wiser reasoning (http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/06/140609113349.htm?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+sciencedaily+%28Latest+Science+News+--+ScienceDaily%29&utm_content=FaceBook)
Excerpt Results from the experiments indicated that participants who were asked to reason about a friend's relationship conflict made wiser responses than those who were asked to reason about their own relationship conflict. Excerpt The results supported those from the first experiment: Participants who thought about their own relationship conflict from a first-person perspective showed less wise reasoning than those who thought about a friend's relationship conflict. Excerpt But taking an outsider's perspective seemed to eliminate this bias: Participants who thought about their own relationship conflict through a friend's eyes were just as wise as those who thought about a friend's conflict. They aren't explaining it in the article but triggering would have a factor in the way that we reason in our relationships? (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/images/mb/mindfulness.gif) TOOLS: Triggering, Mindfulness, and the Wise Mind (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=64749.0;all) Excerpt What is mindfulness all about? In the simplest sense, we all develop from time to time, thinking patterns that do not serve us well. When we do, we are easily "triggered" -- having non-constructive reactions to specific words or actions based on prior experiences. We've all been there - resentment, pessimism, defensiveness, impatience, closed mindedness, distrusting, intolerance, confrontational, defeated... . Thanks for sharing antony_james |iiii |