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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: cobaltblue on June 12, 2014, 10:03:00 PM



Title: SO frustrated by parental alienation
Post by: cobaltblue on June 12, 2014, 10:03:00 PM
6 months into divorce with uBPDw.  Have determined that she has been conducting an ongoing alienation campaign for at least two years to alienate the kids to me and cause them to be dependent on her - the need for unconditional love and to be the center of attention is strong in this one.

I'm frustrated because there are no solutions to this. I've read Divorce Poison. I live in a state that only recognizes things on a case by case basis at the judge's discretion. I have some evidence of it - digital audio and text messages. The only option I'm seeing does not address stopping the behavior. It only addresses how to help lessen it. I'm told that it is extremely hard to prove in court and even if proven, all the judge does is issue a reprimand.

I'm told to always take the high road, to never stoop to their level and play dirty; and what - just sit by while the children are brainwashed with false information daily?

There has to be a better option than to just love them. An option that has to do with forcing boundaries and consequences on the uBPDw to deter the actions? Not like a Tony Soprano type action, but something effective nonetheless.