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This might be a bit confusing.

Especially since I know she's not playing any games, she never did. Is there any meaning behind it? Am I right in assuming it's not really "logic" to ask these questions?

Just a short recap for people not knowing my situation:

I immigrated to the US October 2013, We got married in January. Things went sour, I left for Europe again. The plan was for me to stay a couple of weeks to give her room and re-center myself.

She broke up with me after 2 weeks via text message and replaced me with someone she barely knows (just a couple of days.)

We went NC.

After a week or so I got a text from her asking:

"Will you give me any problems with divorce?"

I was a bit baffled by the question. She's a tough, stubborn girl. And as I know her she wouldn't care about me giving her problems, she'd just do it. She also knows that she can trust me, I always respected her decisions.

Also... . what would be the difference if she wants divorce anyways?

I replied that it is really not what I want, but that I wouldn't give her any problems if that is her decision.

I sent her a short, unemotional text for her birthday. Got a "Thank you!" back.

Just now, two weeks later, I got another text from her:

"What do you want me to do with your bank account?"

Same reaction on my end. I mean... . She could just take herself off of it or just not use it.

Yes, I know she might be worried about me ___ing up and her being responsible... . But since she said she wants divorce she wouldn't be legally bound to me anymore anyways?

I don't get it.

Pipehitter

My best guess is that she is putting out feelers... . or testing the waters so to speak.

Sometimes it's an exercise in futility to try and figure out how they are thinking.

I would venture to say that although you've been replaced she still is trying to see if you are still in the mix!

My experience has been that they do this to keep you around... . Just in case!

Sorry you are going through this... . so hard to be in this state of confusion over what she may be thinking

I think the best thing for YOU is to be in a good place with where YOU are with the r/s and it's being over... . and staying strong.

That is what i thought, too.

But what I don't get is... . sooner or later she will have to act/decide (divorce). The paperwork that allows me to stay outside of the US while my GC application is running is temporary only and I would have to get back to the states rather soon. So it's not something she can use for long just "to test the waters." Time is running out so to speak.

That would make things FINAL, since I wouldn't be able to come back to the states then (I am currently back in Europe.)

Also, I never got a reply to me answering the divorce question. And I am not holding my breath to get a response to my reply to the last text.

So if she wants to "set things straight"... . weird way to do it... . especially for someone like her. I know her enough to know that she normally would just "business like" go through what has to be done and talked about.