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Title: Was This Triagulation? Post by: Willingtolearn on June 24, 2014, 04:07:25 PM My ex BPDgf and i used to text each other often. However on a few occasions i would get a reply to one of my texts to her saying, " This is Jim ( not real name) I am using Jeans ( not real name) phone today as my own phone has not been recharged" Jim was my exBPDgf's ex husband. He visited my exBPDgf home to see the children on occasions.
I knew how the text had been worded that it was not Jim, at all, but Jean who was pretending to be her ex husband Jim. Was this a form of Triangulation (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=121673.0)? If so, what was the purpose of doing this? Title: Re: Was This Triagulation? Post by: AlwaysForgiving on June 24, 2014, 04:37:26 PM I was wondering about Triangulation (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=121673.0) too. I'm guessing if she's getting a 3rd party involved, it's Triangulation (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=121673.0).
When my uBPDxgf got into a fight with her last bf and came running to me, I texted her and said things like "He doesn't know what he is missing. I would give anything to be in his position... . " and things like that and totally opened my heart. What does she do with that? She turned around and sent that text to the guy she was fighting with and said "look my ex-boyfriend had to say about me!" I'm guessing that's Triangulation (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=121673.0)? Title: Re: Was This Triagulation? Post by: Willingtolearn on June 25, 2014, 02:20:47 PM I cannot understand her reasoning for doing this. Why pretend to be your ex husband when replying to my text?
What did she hope to gain by doing this? Title: Re: Was This Triagulation? Post by: Turkish on June 25, 2014, 03:08:58 PM I cannot understand her reasoning for doing this. Why pretend to be your ex husband when replying to my text? What did she hope to gain by doing this? Validation that you loved her because she was fishing for a reaction? A waif (victim) awaiting a Knight (rescuer)? Here is a good summary of it (the whole thread is interesting, really): For instance: A problematic triangle or triangulation (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=121673.0) is not something that is DONE TO US, it' something that we participate in or not; usually because of our own over-identification with a point on a drama triangle from family of origin, on this board, most often 'resucer'... . but even if you start out as a rescuer you will usually eventually play all roles and leave a drama triangle identifying strongly with the role of "victim". https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=121673 |