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Are these traits of a BPD  ?

Moves out without having had a fight.

Always threatening to leave or divorce

She went on a trip and I said dont forget to wear your seatbelt, I want you home safe. She blew up saying dont tell her what to do.

I told her sweet dreams one night, did the same the next night and she said never say that to me I had a nightmare last night. I thought she was kidding, the next night I told her sweet dreams again and she blew up.

Gave me a list of things I had to do to get her to stay. Every thing on the list was something to do with the house. Nothing about talking or loving more.

Never helped with the bills yet she makes much more then I do.

Always taunting me about moving out, making a big show of moving all of her stuff to storage while singing a little song your gonna miss me when Im gone.

This is still freaking me out. She has me so convinced every thing was my fault. Now Im wondering if it was me.

Hi Peiper

They certainly sound like they could be.

Have you read the lessons pages on here? Have a read of the forums and see how many similarities you find. If almost every story could have been written about your relationship then the chances are she's BPD.

Other things,

I told her she was the most beautiful thing Id ever seen, she replyed that she wanted me to prove it and show her pictures of them.

After she moves out she calls in a month and wants back

Goes through my laptop and phone any time she can

For goodness sake I dont keep pictures of exs so I didnt have anything to show her, much less should I have had the need to. For me saying she is the most beautiful should have been a good thing for her. Not a reason to question my honesty.

I suggest going to the home page and clicking on the articles section. There is an article on BPD symptoms there. Have a good read and see how many of the traits apply to you gf.

-Mine got upset when I asked for money for her phone bill (under my plan)

-we once made an agreement that I would not get drunk while she wasn't around and for me to stay faithful and she would self harm. She split me black and replaced me and I got drunk and she actually told me that I broke my promise to her when we recycled.

I can go on for hours but u get the picture.

And the trust thing they never get over. Me and my exBPD gf used to watch movies and a girl would come on screen and my stomach would drop because I knew what was about to happen. Question "do you think she is hot". No matter what my answer was wrong. Yes then I'm a scumbag and no I'm a liar. They have to be in total control of you or they can't be with you. That is what I got out of my relationship.