Title: It is insane Post by: Octavianues on June 26, 2014, 03:49:24 PM Well, I've found out that my uBPDxgf is already living with her new boyfriend and his 16 years old daughter after knowing each other for only 2 weeks. He and his daughter moved in with her, staying at her place.
Ok, I understand she is BPD person, but what is he thinking? And to also involve 16 years old daugther. It is insane. And this is completly different life style she was living till now. I know, mirroring. Would any normal person act so fast? Octavianues Title: Re: It is insane Post by: maternal on June 26, 2014, 11:09:12 PM You can't know, or assume what this other person's situation is, but there it's quite possible that there is more at play in this dude's life than simply being under your ex's spell. Who knows. Who cares. It's not your concern any longer.
Also, I know it's difficult to fathom right now, but it doesn't matter. You shouldn't care. You're only hurting yourself by being concerned about it. Title: Re: It is insane Post by: antjs on June 27, 2014, 06:34:09 AM Well, I've found out that my uBPDxgf is already living with her new boyfriend and his 16 years old daughter after knowing each other for only 2 weeks. He and his daughter moved in with her, staying at her place. Ok, I understand she is BPD person, but what is he thinking? And to also involve 16 years old daugther. It is insane. And this is completly different life style she was living till now. I know, mirroring. Would any normal person act so fast? Octavianues i moved in with my exBPD after one week of knowing her. can they be that charming and seductive to make you do so that fast ? yes can you be that stupid ignoring such a big red flag and feeling obliged to do so and you dont want to turn her down because she is too good to be true ? yes. your replacement is up for a crazy intense ride. either she is very low functioning or it is a rebound. what your replacement is experiencing is what did happen to me. very fast, intense and the discard was only after 6 weeks. sounds pretty short and lucky to get out that fast but the intensity and speed of events, evaluation and devaluation just ___s your mind and make you question who you are n the aftermath. |