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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: AlonelyOne on July 02, 2014, 02:44:29 PM



Title: It's so hard during the nice times...
Post by: AlonelyOne on July 02, 2014, 02:44:29 PM
So the other week or two was pretty rough and insane. Then this week, S2BX was for the most part calmer, nice, affectionate, having given kisses.

And it's so hard, because it brings down all my walls. Makes me start questioning if I am looking at things wrong. (And then there is that part in the back of my head that says, you told her when she was being toxic, that you get more bees with honey than vinegar, and I question if I am just being served honey.)

*sighs*

Part of me started thinking more softly.  But then today I realized she doesn't (at least at this time) intend to inform me about the location of her new apartment.  :-|



Title: Re: It's so hard during the nice times...
Post by: ForeverDad on July 02, 2014, 03:55:01 PM
If you share children then she simply cannot hide her residence from you for long without making claims she is fearful of DV, stalking, harassment, child endangerment, or something else similarly nefarious.  If she doesn't want to tell you, no big deal, no need to make a scene where you can't win anyway, it will turn up somewhere and sometime in the divorce papers.

It's been called many things... .an endless (exhilarating/nauseating) roller coaster... .an endless dance that gets nowhere, you step forward and she steps back, you step back and she steps forward... .sharing a cage with a tempting but unpredictable wild beast... .etc.