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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: peiper on July 08, 2014, 09:09:35 PM



Title: hateful
Post by: peiper on July 08, 2014, 09:09:35 PM
 She was so hateful in court today it blows me away. Lied her butt off and walk off. I did say in court I wanted nothing to do with her and was going to move out of state to get away from her. I could tell both times it bothered her. Whats that?  she filed all this crap, including a divorce. I think she is a nut. I would have been happy in court to say Id love to have her back and go to coucling, witch i did and make things work. But it was like talking to a snake. As always she blew right past it. She conned the judge so bad it makes me sick my-issues. I hope she is hurting like I am. But I doubt it. Im starting to hate and I know thats not healthy. Thoughts?


Title: Re: hateful
Post by: LettingGo14 on July 08, 2014, 09:37:51 PM
She was so hateful in court today it blows me away. Lied her butt off and walk off. I did say in court I wanted nothing to do with her and was going to move out of state to get away from her. I could tell both times it bothered her. Whats that?  she filed all this crap, including a divorce. I think she is a nut. I would have been happy in court to say Id love to have her back and go to coucling, witch i did and make things work. But it was like talking to a snake. As always she blew right past it. She conned the judge so bad it makes me sick my-issues. I hope she is hurting like I am. But I doubt it. Im starting to hate and I know thats not healthy. Thoughts?

I'm sorry, peiper.   I know it hurts, and badly.   

Fortunately, it's merely one day in your life, and there are going to be days like this, especially in the process of extrication. 

My initial thought is that you can let yourself be angry right now.   It doesn't mean you need to act out the anger, but it's okay to be angry and to feel it deeply.   There's a pretty helpful discussion of healthy and unhealthy anger here:  Respecting our anger (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=135831.0)

Don't be too hard on yourself.  Especially today.