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Title: BPD is hitting rock bottom - I am not in loop Post by: funfunctional on July 14, 2014, 08:53:59 AM My BPD sister did one of her flip/turns on me a 6 weeks ago when she started seeing her x loser/criminal boyfriend again. The silent treatment is pretty typical with her and this time I decided not to take the bite. I left a door slightly open and texted her an invite to something and we also went to one of her son's games, but, I am not doing the fighting with her.
Well. Found out last night that she was hauled off once again in an ambulance. (perhaps #4 in the last year - trip via ambulence). Two nights at a hospital. Vodka and apparently very aggitated at 1:30am. She was staying with her x husand's mother that she remains close to. There are children involved so I suspect the x MIL and x FIL and X husband are worried about the whole deal. Yesterday there was vodka and back in the hospital again. Friend of hers took her & told her she needs treatment. We will see. I said to my husband last night "I have my hands full here with two kids and two step children and we are both flat out... .I work 5 days a week and get 10 vacation days a year". Just happy other people are helping her but feeling a bit guilty about it. This issue is so big and she needs help that I can't give her. She and my brother are both mentally ill and see me as the "survivor" and since my mom passed direct all their anger in life at me. I am the "lucky" one. I understand they are not well. Nonetheless my own children deserve normalcy in their life. My husband and I were both given some rough families & want to break the pattern. So as selfish as it is - I want to be happy. My dad gets this and I love him for that. He didn't even call me as we were away for a long awaitied weekend trip with the kids and he didn't call me until last night. My dad sees this. Title: Re: BPD is hitting rock bottom - I am not in loop Post by: HappyChappy on July 14, 2014, 09:18:21 AM I'm sorry to hear about your sister. But totaly understand your need to be out of the loop. I was also seen as the survivor, as you put it. The one that mopped up everyones problems, and helped them out (one way). Since I've been NC they seem to be able to sort themselves out. Your right to priorities your own family first.
Title: Re: BPD is hitting rock bottom - I am not in loop Post by: funfunctional on July 14, 2014, 10:51:44 AM Thanks HapChap,
I strongly feel I am not the person to help. I tried. I listened to many venting sessions and listened and was positive. When things really get tough she goes back to hating me again. Best that I moved away too. Let her figure her own stuff out and hopefully she will get out of this alive. |iiii |