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We had a good last weekend. Small issues as always but nothing serious until Sunday afternoon, when we were going to drive to his friends place. He was trying to throw an old CD out the window and hit me in the face. I got upset cause it hurt and he said that despite doing it accidentally, it was karma since I had been mean to him. He got upset with me for not answering and ignoring him while I was trying to calm myself and called me a b___. He then swerved the car around saying he is just going to leave me gone. I apologized and told him to just go on, because his fronds will be good for him.  He obliged but I continued to feel more upset just from the stress of the situation and he hit pissed off and parked in a parking lot near his friends place and made it clear he didn't want me to follow. I did though. I didn't really respect that boundary, but I was extremely upset. I ended up losing him and being a nervous wreck and sobbing my eyes out, I slowly walked the km to goods friends place. When I got there... .He was with his friend and acted like all was normal. It was the biggest bull___, but I had his fronds as a buffer. I didn't look forward to the drive home. I felt like ___. But I was nice to him. I acted like normal.


I'm supposed to drive up to see him tomorrow, but I suddenly realised I'm dreading it. I don't want a repeat of the last weekend so badly and to be honest I don't think i I'm strong enough emotionally  to avoid that. I feel like things are unraveling quickly.

If you are dreading it don't do it. Otherwise you will reinforce that it is ok to treat you this way.

By going you will be putting him in the controlling position and so you wont be able to resolve this. if you go and bring it up it will escalate, if you say nothing you will validate that it is ok to behave this way