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I've been busting my a$$ for the past two weeks, getting ready for my moms surprise party! I am so excited but at the same time, can't wait until it's over so I can tell her all the crazy things that have gone on in the past few weeks, behind the scenes. Most importantly I can't wait to tell her that I sent an invitation to my brother and never heard back from him. In fact, I'm not even sure he got it. His uBPD wife may have intercepted it from the mail and hid it from him. He may even just show up. I don't know.

I never in a million years, thought I'd be doing a 60th birthday party all by myself. I had always imagined my brother and I would chip in. My husband and I have spent well over $1,000 on this party. The fact that my brother couldn't even so much as respond to my invite, makes me terribly sad for him. He should want to celebrate my moms bday and the fact that after nearly losing her life at 36 due to kidney failure, we are so lucky to still have her here with us. That's his cross to bear though. He is the one who chose to let a woman, who he's known for less than a year and a half, control his life and isolate him from his family. He's the one who will have to live with the guilt that he missed his moms 60th birthday party.

After losing our dad to cancer a few years back, you'd think he'd learn how precious life is and how important the time we have with each other is because it is limited.

It just makes me both sad and angry. Sad because I know my mom is going to be very hurt and angry because his wife's issues are dictating the course of his life. She very obviously doesn't care about him. If she did, she'd let go and allow him to be with his family for a few short hours.

I'm just hoping and praying he doesn't decide to show up with her because it's going to cause a scene. She is NOT welcome in my home. I will ask her to leave.

I'm not really looking for advice. Just needed to vent. This sucks. I wish he could be here.

I hope everything goes perfectly, and that you and especially your mom can enjoy it, even if he's not there!  Good thoughts coming from Virginia!