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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Bear60 on August 14, 2014, 11:37:48 PM



Title: Do you run after them
Post by: Bear60 on August 14, 2014, 11:37:48 PM
tonight I hurt her feelings, I didn't intend to but did, when she started about it I told her I understood that her feelings were hurt, explained the situation and apologized that I had done wrong. well it didn't stop, we went over it 4 times then I asked for it to stop but she keeps going. I don't know, is it that they are not getting the answer they want? so when that doesn't work she goes into something else, then something else, I keep trying to stop it till I am exhausted emotionally, an hour and a half after I asked to stop the discussion I finally get mad. is this what she wanted? now she wants me to pack my stuff and get out, I tell her I simply wanted this to stop and I am not going to leave tonight at midnight so she gets her stuff and leaves... .she comes back at least twice and keeps jabbing. now I get a text that she wants me to come after her and show her she really means something, that no women can live feeling so wrong and unloved.   


Title: Re: Do you run after them
Post by: woofhound on August 14, 2014, 11:58:02 PM
This is a page directly from my book. Would I be wrong in assuming this is not the first break up you've had with her? With mine on the last break up I she started an argument, and, after several breakups, I was simply too exhausted to give chase again. I haven't heard from her in a long while. Maybe a month. I think to them, being loved means being sought after; being needed. Do you NEED her? After a long period of break ups and getbacktogehters I finally decided I didn't NEED her. I decided that the emotional turmoil and stress was keeping me from progressing through life as a normal human should, so I didn't chase. Now she's gone, and I sometimes regret it, but for the most part I find peace in knowing that my world is no longer torn to shreds at her whim.