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Love = Pain

My feelings ≠ your understanding of them

Your hatred towards me is > anything I can comprehend

(You + Me)  ÷ BPD = The End

How Very True!

I was going to say that the formula was wrong because love does not equal pain. Then I thought some more and realized that in my 57 years on this earth I've loved two women and both tried to destroy me and the pain is/was awful. So based on my experience to date, you are correct. However, I have to believe that "healthy" love does not equal pain. I just haven't experienced it yet. Someday I hope to.

Lie = Truth?

Friend = F-buddy?

I Love You = (I Hate You) ^ T   // where T=Time to go from good to bad

:)

The math of it just got me looking into the following.

If you take the fourth line from each of the four verses of the John Lennon/Beatles song 'Come Together', which includes the line "One and one and one is three", you find: "Got to be a joker he just do what he please... .One thing I can tell you is you got to be free... .Hold you in his armchair you can feel his disease... .Got to be good-looking 'cause he's so hard to see."

PwBPD + PwithoutBPD=   

        pwBPD = i

pwBPD = ... .babe where did you go?,I was about to tell you what it equals... first you tell you love mathematical equation and now you tell me you don't want to know it and you need some space?... .hello? oh so now you aren't replying to emails either!. Come on just talk to me about it... oh man this is all my fault  

1 + 1 = 2

pwBPD: It's 3

nonBPD: no it's 2

pwBPD: no it's 3 there's another one isn't there!

nonBPD: no honestly there's no other 1 there is only 2

pwBPD: I know there is another 1 and it equals 3! come on who is it?... who is this other 1! I know you're going to go off with the other one.

nonBPD: what the hell are you talking about? there is only 2 of us not 3!

pwBPD: I hate you!

nonBPD: this is all my fault

1 + 1 = 3

Ok here you go... .

Love = need * mood_i, where i = current hour of the day

pwBPD soulmate = Person_Love,

where Love as defined above and Person chosen randomly acting like a parent

pwBPD feelings = true feelings / ( impulsiveness + control + fear + self hating )

pwBPD guilt = pwBPD shame - ( nothing is pwBPD's fault )

Discussion with a pwBPD = non PBD phrases / 100 * trigger words for pwBPD

PwBPD= spiritual vacume and lost tormented soul

NonpwBPD x manipulation x  constantly lied to x  blamed for anything/ everything x.  x number of years=  what the fook just happened

Early in my adult life (I am also in my fifties), I made the decision to not let myself feel love for a partner.  I can let myself love my children but not my wife.  It always resulted in horrible pain and poor judgement on my part.  It also gave her power over me that wasn't good for me.  Later in life I made the mistake of letting myself love.  It is the greatest and worst thing in the world, all at the same time.  I am back to keeping a wall around my heart.  It just isn't worth the pain.

Brilliant!

BPD = 0

Me = 1

BPD * Me = 0

Nuff Said!

Aw come on people:   i

Look it up.

The square root of -1.

Imaginary

Irrational

As you multiply it by itself it pops in and out of rational to irrational and positive to negative... .

Like the dissociative personalities of our exes.  

This was perhaps my most brilliant and probably only truly original post.  

i  is used to model fractals and Chaos Theory.

Calling our exes a fractal or in Chaos also fits.  

And of course our exes wBPD, it was all about them.  So the "I" but instead "i" also works.

It's a brilliant Mathematics post

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These were hilarious, thanks for the laughs!

I am listening to "Set Fire To The Rain" by ADELE and just realized she is probably talking about someone with BPD!

But there's a side to you

That I never knew, never knew.

All the things you'd say

They were never true, never true,

And the games you play

You would always win, always win.

Wounded "Normie"

+

pwBPD (wounded)

=

Dysfunction and Pain

Solve for X

N=Normal person

D= the amount of money thrown away to help X

A=number of counseling appointments paid for my N where X lied and N got really frustrated


X(D*A)/N= Confusion, Depression, a prescription for antidepressants, and considerably less money

This was a brilliant and cteative thread. I would like to attempt mathematizing a typical BPD/non relationship:

pwBPD = 1/2 a person

(Because they are soo emotionally underdeveloped, and their belief systems are soo grotesquely deformed.)

non = 1/2 a person

(Because many of us nons are similarly core-damaged and codependent -- why else would we be drawn to AND STAY with them?)

So: pwBPD (1/2 a person)

                     +

       nonBPD (1/2 a person)

                     =

                 ZERO,

Yes, a BPD relationship defies the natural laws of mathematics!

(But WE are also equally at blame, because WE chose to stay and invest in a deeply core-damaged person.)

PwBPD "I would never do that"= Not only have I done that but I will do so much more that Your head will be.                                                      spinning

(Non + NC from pwBPD) = (Healing+Truth+Happiness)

(pwBPD=emptiness,guilt,shame,loneliness)=a very sad existence for pwBPD :'(

MWC... .*)

Aaaaaah! Want to know what's frustrating? This is the exact Adele song my uxBPDgf posted on facebook after her short r/s with my replacement failed horribly within a few months. lol. feels so hypocritical if the song really was about someone with a pd  :)

And Tausk  |iiii    I GOT YOUR EQUATION THE FIRST TIME AND IT IS AWESOME!  lol In fact it's my favorite for all the reasons you mentioned. pwBPD=i ,  lol lol lol

Thank.  At least someone can share it with me.  It's very geeky, but heck knew I couldn't have been the only geeky math introvert on this board.

And,   i  , really does fit them.  Imaginary,  Irrational, quantum, nonbound... .

Hahahaha... .this is great... .so simple yet so fitting.

Actually Tausk I would shorten the equation to something even more simple:

BPD = i


:)

This is brilliant!  Expresses perfectly the math I have been all too familiar with here!  lol

This too!  :)

This is deep too!  |iiii

Me and math have never gotten along but even I know that 1+1=2 and he would try to convince me that 1+1= 12 on Monday and it'd equal 22 on Tuesday and the then on Wednesday it'd equal purple with pink poke-a-dots.



Yes, Irrational is what is all equals.

Non=a

Non asking uBPDxw question=uBPDxw lying out her ass=X



(X * a)= a +  (   *   )

a-(uBPDxw * X) = (a + :) :) :) :))



MWC... .*)

Haha!  lol So I'm watching re-runs on TV right now and ran across this funny mathematical equation which charts hotness vs. crazyness. hilarity:

The Hot/Crazy Scale:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=uN_sSXKbzHk

Oh my, I so remember those days too!

So I had my first Intro to Accounting class tonight... .We discussed briefly the concepts of return on investment. Basically:

Initial Investment + Additional Expenditure = Return

In BPD terms:

Putting your heart on the line, trust, love, emotional connection, etc. + money spent of gifts and food, constantly having your values and boundaries trampled, coping with them cheating = broken heart, diminished mental and emotional state, depression etc... .

My relationship broker is telling me to sell before the BPD bankrupts my soul! :) *)

Simple.  He = Pain.

I can relate... . 

Folks, beautifully done and incisive.

uBPDxw = internal (pain + loneliness)

uBPDxw + any r/s = internal (pain + loneliness)

MWC *) + uBPDxw = MWC *) + FOG

MWC *) - uBPDxw = (-FOG) + (Truth + Happiness)= MWC *) *  :) :) :)

This math Lesson brought to you by... .MWC *)

I think this is Brilliant LOL.

Here's my situation:

Moselle = Aron*FOG^2

Aron*FOG^2 + uBPDw = (14yrs + D5, D10, D13)FOG^2

Aron*FOG ^2 - (14yrs + D5, D10, D13)FOG^2 = -uBPDw

FOG^2 (Aron - 14 yrs + D5, D10, D13) = -uBPDw

Aron - 14 yrs + D5, D10, D13 = -uBPDw/FOG^2

Aron + D5, D10, D13 = -uBPDw/ FOG^2 + 14 yrs

Happy family = uBPDw, FOG and 14 years of craziness

OK there's something wrong with my maths, but at least I and my three daughters are on one side of the equation, and my uBPDw is on the other. Perhaps she'll leave us alone to heal.

This will make sense if you know my story



MWC *) + uBPDxw = 18yrs Married + (s14 + s9)

Fathers Day 2013 = uBPDxw + new r/s

Fathers Day 2013 (+) = uBPDxw > 20 miles from MWC *)

Fathers Day 2013 + 1 yr = uBPDXW < 50 Yards from MWC *)

MWC *) > 20 miles from uBPDxw = As soon as F¥cking possible!



MWC... .  *)

Hey Moselle,

I read these again and I did get a chuckle :) Especially this last one.

Here's an Update:

Jan 2015=MWC  *) House up for sale=X

?=Date house sells and I can finally move away from uBPDxw

X*?=Soon (By the grace of God)

MWC... .*)

Had a good laugh too :)

I like this one. A new start  - away from the crazy.

Well you can see that I've had a name change.  This was in response to W hacking into my account. I'm impressed - BPD fam's software has even changed the name in the text of my equations.

No need for complicated equations - Harry Nilsson had this all figured out in 1968... .

"One is the loneliest number that you'll ever do

Two can be as bad as one

It's the loneliest number since the number one"

The post was the mathematics of BPD - not healthy love... .

Their pain was caused by someone that they loved in their childhood. Love for them has to hurt or it's not love... .

This is spot on. Their baseline reference is pain.  And it's hardwired into the brain. To recover they have to.re-develop that part of their brain. It's why BPD is so resitant to treatment.