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So I asked her if what she would do about her bf if she moved. She responded by asking if that was a casual way of asking if she was still seeing him. I just said I was wondering.

She responded by saying

Her- " I mean I didn't let us being together hold me back from moving to NY right?"

Me " I lived 80 miles from NY, Big difference"

Her- "That's true. I actually don't like to think about it because I no idea. Haha. But it's extremely unhealthy to base your life on someone else. I mean if a guy moved to be closer to me I would be freaked out. Unless I thought it was going to last a long time, I'd be worried. Honestly, in our relationship I think it moved too quickly and too forcefully."

Me' "We were at weird parts of our lives"

Her- ya but also we weren't a great fit don't you think? I felt like we just weren't a good fit. I mean I think we were bored and wanted to feel something so we chose each other to do it and there ya go"


Why is she saying these things?

Is she playing the BPD "game" or is she being truthful?.

I sense she is afraid of intimacy with some of those comments. If I were serious or extremely interested (and they reciprocated) I would move to be closer to someone... .even if its not moving in with them or them with you. I know because I have.

She is also insinuating that she doesn't feel true love for you. I am still out on whether a pwBPD can express, appreciate, and feel true love. I imagine they can feel intensely but is it real love?. True love?.

Hard for a non to work out. It also doesn't assist that I don't know your background story.

I will say this. Life isn't really a game. It is to be enjoyed (if possible) and experienced. Honestly and deeply. For this is where the real living is.