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Hello everyone,

This is my first time writing a topic on this forums. I could really use some advice & help.

In a nutshell. I decided to leave my partner with BPD, since it was destroying me and my life.

The usual stuff happened. She begged me to come back. Fix the relationship etc etc.

One night she showed up at my doorstep. Wanting to come in and talk.

I did something really stupid. I let her in.

She suddenly turned aggresive. Bit me in my arm.

I had to disable her, so she wouldn't hurt me. The police took her into custody.

Family members from her side showed up yesterday. Threatening to kill me. And beat me.

If i'll ever come to my hometown. They'll kill me.

In a nutshell. The story is very saddening, maddening and it makes me crazy.

For now. The police will call me in the following days. So they can file a report.

I really hope they wont visit me again.

They also suggested that i shouldn't visit me hometown in the next 2/3 weeks. Which is ridiculous.

I feel unsafe, scared, hurt, broken and very emotional unstable. Life is very hard for me at the moment.

I climbed to the top. Realized i should leave her. broke up... and now this... .

Ivaros

I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. Not sure it helps but the absurdity of it is kinda funny... She bit you, wth! Sounds like a honey badger. Sometimes you got to laugh instead of cry.

fwiw... One of the reasons I didn't leave mine was that her violent psycho brother told me he would attack me with a baseball bat if I ever hurt her. I believe it.

Sometimes it's better to be wary of unstable people, rather then tempt them. You don't know what they are capable of, and it's not worth finding out

Honey badger, haha! Well, she bit quite hard. On her hardest i think.

My whole arm was bruised for weeks.

I'm trying to ignore & evade her recycle attempts.

But it's quite hard to not get depressed when facing death threats and a warning in regard to my hometown.

My whole family & alot of friends live there. I can't go there for support or for some distraction.

Why? Because i will get killed... .

Waiting for the police to phone me. Which could be tomorrow.

I hope this ends quickly. I want to go outside and enjoy life again.

That is truly messed up. I am so sorry for you. I am super tired right now, so forgive me if I missed this, but have you called the police on her family for threatening you?

Hey Ivaros, Sorry to hear what you've been through, yet perhaps you learned a lesson in boundaries.  Next time, don't let her in.  I did the same many times w/my BPDxW, with similar results.  Hang in there, LuckyJim

The police is informed. And will call me tomorrow to file a report. And listen to my story.

I really hope it ends quickly. And go outside safely. I informed my boss about the situation and he understands it.

I'm also getting alot of support from my family and therapist.