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I was just wondering how common it is for pwBPD to have many compounding issues.  I have heard of high and low functioning BPD.

My waif had a list of issues as long as your arm.

Cutting,  bullimia,  anxiety,  panic attacks,  insomnia,  night terrors suicide attempts etc.

It was always something. In and out of the doctors with phantom pains,  only able to hold a job for maybe a month or two.

Looking back,  I'm amazed I coped for so long tbh,  trying to stabilize someone who was a complete mess.

I do worry because of all these issues that she may not last long, the bullimia is so bad at this stage she's doing massive damage to her body.

My ex wife went through loads of different co-morbid illnesses.

Bulimia, ME, Self harm, Joint pains, migraines you name it she had it or did it.

I think a lot of them are due to self image. Others are for attention and some are actual illnesses.

Theres a lot going on with a pwBPD that we still don't understand. The self image is an obvious one where we have a bit of a grasp on it. The attention seeking is also fairly obvious with them. The other illnesses though must have something to them as they are commonly reported within this forum. If for instance like the evidence points to that there is an underlying hormone dysfunction then this would explain things like joint pain, high blood pressure, anaemia etc.

My wife has an eating disorder, panic attacks, OCD, depression, and really bad migraines.

Of course, everything is caused by one of two reasons.

a) me

b) whatever Rx the doc gave her

The good news is that after two years of trying (gently) to convince her to get into rehab, the marriage counselor talked her into calling some places in the next few days.  I think sometimes a message is more effective if it doesn't come from me.

Yes, to all except the migraines.  She is low functioning which numerous co-morbid illnesses.  Lots of hospital visits, cutting, eating disorder, body image issues, rapid weight loss, joint pain.  Depression, suicidal thoughts, lack of energy subsequently seeking pain or spontaneous interactions to give her that boost of energy.  Aggression.  Lots of crying.   

It was a lot to cope with at the time.  In my vain attempt to help out, I was often beside myself trying to be understanding while trying to lower my stress point.  Benign things I did or say could trigger her, which made me feel guilty and somber that I influenced her in such a negative way.     

And as Tillerman stated, it was due to her meds and the nature of the illnesses.

She used to have massive cramps, used to throw up a lot, is real real skinny so i suspect she has a eating disorder(although i never noticed it profoundly), sleeps really bad, has skin problems, seems to be depressed, has aenemia, has anxiety/panic attacks, asthma

And i'm not sure about the self-harm. She told me she cut herself in high school, but i don't know if that's true. I did notice some weird behavior that's maybe self harm, but i'm not sure. She used to take great pleasure in popping pimples. Not only on her, but also on me, she would get childlike excited about it if she saw one on me. She also took pleasure in removing ingrown hairs from my beard. I found it weird, but cute at the same time. Also noticed bruises on her legs and arms a lot. Not sure if this is considered self-mutilation.

Mi ex was bulimic since the age of 12 and it still continues.

She has colonic irrigations with a water bottle every morning becasue of her excessive use of laxatives her bowels dont function.

In our last year together she was eating power bars for lunch and salad for dinner.

She threatened suicide casually by taking her finger and moving it across her throat.

She was suicidal at nine and again at 35 .

Cant belive I was with her for so long... .

Hi all

My exBP was almost 43 when I met him, and insisted that we take STD tests when we eventually became involved intimately.

It was found that his body had fought off Hepatitis at one stage, (how the hell did he get that?) My results were clear, (as I knew they would be).

As mean as he always was, he snarled at one point, that he demanded those tests because of the way I am/was in my past, this is a guy who joked about having 100 intimate partners over his life until that point.

Over the time we were involved for 4 years, he presented with a never ending array of 'health problems'. Constant headaches, feeling sick, joint pain, and constant fatigue.

He told me that he had contracted 'Ross River Virus' many years before when he was on a Mine site, and he would never be free of it, it would return whenever his body was under stress.

To top this off, he was already too slim when I met him, and proceeded to get skinnier and skinnier over that 4 years. Starving himself all the time, yet he had all this energy at times, and it didn't seem to fit. I always fed him well when he would stay at mine off and on, and his parents tried to feed him well too, (none of us ever got paid board/rent either).

BP would usually be fine for several days, then when he ran out of money, his mood would get worse and worse. As a pattern, his money would usually be gone within 3 days, yet he paid no rent/bills or any other responsibilities.

I later found that he had been hiding his drinking the whole time, and I suspect other things as well.

He had no sympathy/empathy if I got ill though.

Once I got bitten by a potentially deadly spider, and he couldn't handle it. I even drove myself to the hospital/doctors whilst in great pain. He never offered to come, (odd really).

I thought my wife was the only one.

The child-like excitement at seeing a zit on me started our first fight after the honeymoon. It was 5:30, I was making coffe, and told her, "No."

It's been downhill from there.

I once got mad at her for popping a zit on me in public. It started to bleed and it made me look stupid. She told me to not be such a crybaby... .