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Title: Lies vs Truth (Helpful excercise) Post by: Pieter2 on October 02, 2014, 02:31:29 AM Guys and Gals,
Just a useful excercise to do, especially for those of you who still wonder if your BPDex is better off than you etc. after the relationship (Let's do this together) - Compare your truths to your exBPD's lies and you might see a completely new picture. I'll start: - She was a good girlfriend who was exciting and great in bed. Lie; - I treated her like gold and got NOTHING in return. Fact; - She is happy with her new guy/guys/whatever. Lie; - I'm better off without her. Fact; - She is steady in her work and personal relationships and has many friends. Lie; - I am employed as a manager in one of the largest investment banks in the world and have a fantastic family life with many friends whom I've known for MANY years. Fact; - She has a squeaky clean past with nothing to hide. Lie; - I have nothing to hide and am proud of my past. Fact; - She came out of the relationship better than me. Fact; - I came out of the mourning phase better than her just after the relationship. Fact; - She is so much better than what she was with me. Lie; - I look better than what I did then, am more mature, grounded and a better guy for any girl over all. Fact; - She is going to make someone very happy one day. Lie; - I am going to make someone very happy one day. Fact; Now, does the picture look different to you? Title: Re: Lies vs Truth (Helpful excercise) Post by: Algae on October 02, 2014, 03:38:53 AM Guys and Gals, Just a useful excercise to do, especially for those of you who still wonder if your BPDex is better off than you etc. after the relationship (Let's do this together) - Compare your truths to your exBPD's lies and you might see a completely new picture. I'll start: - She was a good girlfriend who was exciting and great in bed. Lie; - I treated her like gold and got NOTHING in return. Fact; - She is happy with her new guy/guys/whatever. Lie; - I'm better off without her. Fact; - She is steady in her work and personal relationships and has many friends. Lie; - I am employed as a manager in one of the largest investment banks in the world and have a fantastic family life with many friends whom I've known for MANY years. Fact; - She has a squeaky clean past with nothing to hide. Lie; - I have nothing to hide and am proud of my past. Fact; - She came out of the relationship better than me. Fact; - I came out of the mourning phase better than her just after the relationship. Fact; - She is so much better than what she was with me. Lie; - I look better than what I did then, am more mature, grounded and a better guy for any girl over all. Fact; - She is going to make someone very happy one day. Lie; - I am going to make someone very happy one day. Fact; Now, does the picture look different to you? I'm a tad confused. So do we do this too? Or does this list generally just relate to all of us? Title: Re: Lies vs Truth (Helpful excercise) Post by: Pieter2 on October 02, 2014, 04:08:11 AM Hi Algae
Maybe you also want to participate, yes. Or if they apply to you exactly the same, then that's cool too! |