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Two days ago my daughter Non BPD and i got into a fight that required me to utilize our safety and behavior plan that our intensive in home team has helped us come up with. However my soon to be ex-fiance reused ti get involved and called the police who basically laughed at myself and the crisis worker and advised that he evict us and take out a physical custodial order for our 8 year old.  My DD 17 daughter wasn't even envolved, its just he's sick of living like this, but he agreed to be a support during these last 3 months.  Now what I have no money and no where to go with my kids. Everyone is tired of the 9 hospitalizations and the influences my DD has had on the rest of the family.

What can i do, and is there anyone i can call for help?  I am so scared.

Googie

Well, don't make any rash moves (like leaving) until you have explored options.  Maybe talk to your counselors?  I'm not too familiar with this - hope others can be more help.  maybe talk to a lawyer or post your question on avvo.com for free

Was this the police officer advising that?  Generally the police limit themselves to just ensuring the immediate incident is resolved or at least calmed down enough so they can leave not expecting to return.


I'm thinking the only basis for him to be told he ought to have physical custody of your 8 year old is because of the troubles caused by your nearly-adult other daughter.  Within a year she will legally be an adult.  I don't know all the particulars of your situation or whether stbEx-fiance might succeed in gaining physical custody but it may be that you'll have to tell your then-adult daughter she'll have to establish her own residence so the parenting of your younger daughter isn't put at risk of being reduced.