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Hi everyone. Glad I have finally got round to posting on here and hope you are all doing ok. I wanted to ask some advise with regards to slander and stalking by BPD ex partners.In particular what ways i can go about dealing with this

My ex partner is currently on a smear campaign around my town. Telling all and sundry her twisted version of our last encounter (my story here) https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=234535.0

The actual events (me being beaten by her severely)have been changed in the space of the past week from "he attacked me" (also broadcast on her facebook,where several friends called her out on her lies) to "he beat me up" and again she has been telling many people including mutual friends (well they were mutual,some aren't anymore) and her new friend circle.Who of course believe her as they have never met or spoken to me. This has continued to carry on up to a few days ago (reported back to me today)She has also been displaying her self harm scars to people in the pubs she frequents (considering how ashamed she was/is of them this seems quite the attention seeking stunt) this of course has been getting to me quite a bit, mainly because I'm the sort of person who would never harm a woman and she knows this.But also i have concerns it may effect my employment (i work as an entertainer in a tourist attraction and worry what repercussions this may have.)

Also this week i have noticed her doing a number of very obvious walkpasts of my workplace (she has never done this up until now,even when we were together she would barely ever walk past) As well as a few obvious stop offs at the bus stop outside my place of work. One were i noticed her friends were blocking her way from walking over to my workplace. I didnt really think much of it ,until later that day when i noticed she was at a pub a few doors down from my work.She had set herself up on an outdoor seat which provided a vantage point to view the street. (only one seat in this area has this vantage point,and she had chosen it) i mentioned to one of two of my work collegues who confirmed  my suspicions ,that my former partner was indeed watching, (in particular when i stepped outside for a cigarette,her head would turn and look at me from a distance) I must be honest it has creeped me out quite a bit and i still wonder whats coming next.

Have any others experienced this sort of thing,and what ways did you go about either aolving or coping with the situation

One thing with slander is that the people who know you wont believe and the people who don't know you don't matter.

That said if it gets to a point where you are being affected with work then it might be worth telling her that if it continues you will seek legal action against her for slander.

I believed my ex when she said things about her ex husband but now I don't believe them. In time people will see through her as her story will change and with it her credibility.

As for the stalking as long as you don't feel threatened then why worry. Go about your life and show her you have moved on. If it gets any worse then a restraining order may be necessary. This would also undermine her lies about you as an added bonus.

Speaking from experience, even if you are able to prove she is stalking you and spreading lies about you, there's still a bias in court towards women.

Get the police involved. Talk to them and ask questions. Most police detachments have an info/complaint line you can call 24/7.