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Her attorney sent my attorney the following in response to our negotiated (I thought) "Reconciliation Agreement": "he has not given to her his soul. I can put him together with Dr. Faustus who specializes in soul transfers. Upon your return we must get together to discuss."

I'm not sure who is more sick, my BPDw or her attorney. Every time I get stuff like this I want to crawl in a hole and die. Not only does she want to destroy my career and bankrupt me, now she wants me to sell my soul to the devil in return for her crumbs. I'm very upset, but I refuse to be baited and lash out. Thoughts from the community?

Oh man.  Is this for real?   I'm sorry but this has me on the floor rolling around laughing.

Dude her attorney is the scum sucking type I'm sorry.  But seriously F that dude the both of them are engaging in something vile and I would say yeah the attorney is worst. He's a licensed professional scumbag.

Is this some sort of joke?

I'm laughing at the lunacy!

I'd report the attorney to their regulatory board.

Good lord - is he for real? Maybe this is something you can use in your favour if /when it gets nasty in court. You can show the guy is a nutter and everything else he says is nutty too.

An official soul transferer - what the heck?

I'd guess the lawyer is subtly conveying to your lawyer that his client is crazy .

This was what I was thinking as well. That his client (the ex) is making absurd demands. Could be a positive sign, talk to your lawyer about it and ask him for his take. Maybe you can push back on her demands if they are viewed as being over the top.

That's my take too. I would guess her lawyer is sick of her s*** but essentially he works FOR HER. So he (like you, and many of us) has just given up and is like "ok you want that, I'll put it, sure, you're right". I'd say he's gearing up to just do whatever she says and lose. Then she will blame him (or you... or everyone), except the difference is he can just walk away. "Yep, whatever, bye".

I would say her lawyer is on YOUR side. Both attorneys probably know one another, and he was basically saying "my client is batsh!t".

Yup, I agree with those who think this is her L's way of rolling his eyes at his crazy client. And it does also sound like he is prepared to do exactly what she wants and then lose and walk away. After all, L's don't need to win to get paid.

I really feel for you.  We're not in the middle of your life and so we can step back and ROFL.   Maybe in time you can look back, shake your head and ROFL too.

I agree with the others, her lawyer may realize she won't listen to her own client and so he's just doing the bare minimum and let her reveal who and what she is.  He may not fight very hard for her, just enough extra so he can CYA.

However, that doesn't mean he won't still try to get the best deal possible for his client.  So still be aware and beware.


Realistically, reconciliation has no hope unless she gets into serious therapy and diligently applies it in her thinking and life henceforth.  After some 28 years of it not happening, odds are she won't do it now either, at least not for long until she cycles yet again.  Prepare yourself for failure again - and then be strong enough to say It Is Over.  Ponder how best to end it with as little damage to yourself both emotionally and financially.

I wouldn't read too much into it.  Most of the lawyers are in on the joke when one of them has a crazy client.  My lawyer would send little things like that to my X's lawyer knowing that the stbx would read it and it would set her off :). 


In the end her first L could not show her the door fast enough.

I guess my first question is what your attorney thinks of this.

It's commonplace for disordered people to act in unbelievably ridiculous ways during divorce proceedings. Think about that for a second. Divorce is very stressful for non-disordered people, and disordered people respond very poorly to stress, so it's no surprise that it feels like you're trying to arm wrestle a tornado right now.

Take a deep breath... .ask your attorney what this means... .and don't give up.

At least they're literate enough to understand Dr. Faustus.