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Title: Is it possible to be a BPD in one relationship and a co-dependent in another? Post by: maric on October 08, 2014, 06:21:39 PM Hi folks,
I have been wondering about this strange combination. I'll explain why I am asking that: when I was with my uBPDxgf, she would always say to me that our relationship was different from her previous bfs, because on those rs she was always the one who 'took care' of the other partner". And in our relationship, I was the one who seemed to be the mature one. She said this to me several times. By that time, I did not know about BPD. As for myself, I think I fit in the co-dependent role, but I have been on therapy since I am 16, and I thought I developed some skills to deal with my co-dependency. Her exes where NPDs for sure. So, does this mean that on a BPD + NPD rs, the BPD takes more of the caretaker role? And then, on a BPD + co-dependent, they cannot be co-dependents, because the really co-dependent one assumes this role? Does this make any sense? Title: Re: Is it possible to be a BPD in one relationship and a co-dependent in another? Post by: Blimblam on October 08, 2014, 09:11:06 PM Hi folks, I have been wondering about this strange combination. I'll explain why I am asking that: when I was with my uBPDxgf, she would always say to me that our relationship was different from her previous bfs, because on those rs she was always the one who 'took care' of the other partner". And in our relationship, I was the one who seemed to be the mature one. She said this to me several times. By that time, I did not know about BPD. As for myself, I think I fit in the co-dependent role, but I have been on therapy since I am 16, and I thought I developed some skills to deal with my co-dependency. Her exes where NPDs for sure. So, does this mean that on a BPD + NPD rs, the BPD takes more of the caretaker role? And then, on a BPD + co-dependent, they cannot be co-dependents, because the really co-dependent one assumes this role? Does this make any sense? Npds and histrionics don't love and are self absorbed and selfish this causes the borderline to chase. The narc will abuse the borderline and the borderline will just take it trying to prove themselves worthy. |