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Title: feeling lonely missing ex Post by: Hurtbeyondrepair27 on October 13, 2014, 02:15:36 AM Feeling lonely... missing ex. Im not going to
contact him. But encouragment? I dont really strugglr with nc... but sometimes the temptation is fleetibg when i remember the good times... luckily the bad times were so bad all i have to do is remember. still feeling lonely and mildly missing him tho... Title: Re: feeling lonely missing ex Post by: Hurtbeyondrepair27 on October 13, 2014, 02:21:12 AM I need to add too that im very proud of myself i have done ZERO
cyberstalking... and it doesnt take very much energy to leave it alone like i used to. i know if i looked i wohld be extremely hurt. hes vengeful... . or maybe he just doesnt care. euther way hurt i dont want to deal with. Title: Re: feeling lonely missing ex Post by: sl1978 on October 13, 2014, 02:36:13 AM I'm feeling the same. I won't contact her if you don't contact him! Let's make a deal.
And same on the cyberstalking. I went ahead and just deleted my facebook to stop the temptation. If I went on there and saw her status changed from "married" to anything else it would just crush me. Title: Re: feeling lonely missing ex Post by: sl1978 on October 13, 2014, 02:38:01 AM And another trick I've gotten in the habit of: whenever I feel that urge to call her, I go through my contacts until I find an old friend I haven't talked to in awhile. After a bit of catching up with them, the urge is gone.
Title: Re: feeling lonely missing ex Post by: MrConfusedWithItAll on October 13, 2014, 04:03:14 AM When I start missing my ex I remind myself that when we were together I would miss the peace and tranquility of my life before we ever met.
Title: Re: feeling lonely missing ex Post by: Hurtbeyondrepair27 on October 13, 2014, 08:22:17 AM I'm feeling the same. I won't contact her if you don't contact him! Let's make a deal. And same on the cyberstalking. I went ahead and just deleted my facebook to stop the temptation. If I went on there and saw her status changed from "married" to anything else it would just crush me. ok deal! :) When I start missing my ex I remind myself that when we were together I would mis s the peace and tranquility of my life before we ever met. i know what u mean when he was here and kept breaking up with me all the time my house was a mess. he would always joke "why be embarrassed you never clean" but actually it was only when ibwas depressed all the time over him. wouldnt you know my cleaning habits are pre boyfriend again. In the beg during honey moon phase it stayed clean too. im not blaming him just pointing out that he brought me so low. Title: Re: feeling lonely missing ex Post by: sl1978 on October 13, 2014, 03:46:34 PM Yeah, keep up those thoughts. I try to focus too on all the things that annoyed me about her. I keep telling myself how nice it is not to hear about her stupid drama at work everyday, or her dumb friends that I couldn't care less about.
There's a fine line between loneliness and quiet peacefulness. I still slip into the loneliness everyday but it is getting easier. And the longer I go without contacting her, the better I feel about myself. They have no more power over us, we now control our lives. Title: Re: feeling lonely missing ex Post by: Deeno02 on October 13, 2014, 03:48:34 PM I remind myself that I was alone, even with her near me.
Title: Re: feeling lonely missing ex Post by: sl1978 on October 13, 2014, 03:49:28 PM I remind myself that I was alone, even with her near me. So true! |