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Hi we are struggling as a family our daughter is showing several traits of BPD but is un diagnosed it's been so difficult seeing how her life is going

Hi I'm not confident in using computers but so want to be able to speak to other people affected by BPD Our 25 year old daughter is showing several traits of BPD but is yet in diagnosed it's taken us a while to work out why things never work out for her ie no friends can't keep jobs a lot if raging particularly towards me self harming in the form of withdrawing insulin been type 1 diabetic since the age of 4 therefore is hospitalised regularly also skin picking & wreck less driving is a problem Makes me so sad when I see my beutiful daughter isolate herself due to smoking weed & missing out on so much

hi Causewayend1990 and  *welcome*

i'm so sorry for your situation, and for your daughter's. i think parents who try to support their BPD children are heroic. you face so many trials, as you've said in your OP. i'm glad you've found our site! we have an active group of posters here who have seen BPD from every angle, including a parent's. we also have a wealth of resources. welcome again!

when a child suffers from BPD (even our adult child), not only is the child unhappy and unhealthy, but often, so is everyone who loves them. this condition can severely affect everyone, creating drama and heartbreak. the good news is that there are approaches to these problems, and we are here to offer you the support and encouragement to help you find them. a great place to start is with this set of resources: What can a parent do? (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=114267.0) please also visit ourParenting a Son or Daughter Suffering from BPD board (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=4.0).

have you been able to seek any professional intervention for her behavior patterns? has she seen a therapist? you're certainly is a very stressful situation, do you have support for yourself? please keep posting Causewayend1990!

Hi causeway

I'm sorry to hear of your struggle. BPD or even just the characteristics are hard to deal with.

Is there something specific about her behaviour that has led you to this conclusion? if you could provide more detail it might be easier to help you

Regards,

Ziggiddy

Hi causeway

I'm sorry to hear of your struggle.

It is never easy to deal with self destructive behaviour and even more so when it is in your own child.

The board that maxen recommended is a safe place for you to interact with others in similar situations.

it doesn't matter how well yuo use computers (I am slow and faulty at it!) you will benefit from interacting.

maxen makes a very good point about seeking support for yourself.

As important as it is to assist your daughter, it is vital that you assist yourself first.

I hope you are taking the time to look after yourself - you need adequate sleep and proper care to have your options at their best for thinking with a clear head. Professional support if it is within your reach may be of great benefit to you.

Also if your daughter has diabetes and is not able to follow her management plan competently then it is important for you to refer to the team who help her - perhaps at the hospital where she has been admitted to previously? that kind of thing needs professional attention which you just can't do all on your own

I hope you take up the suggestion to post on the Parent board. I am sure you will get good advice there

best wishes

Ziggiddy

Hi folks our 25 year old daughter displays almost all tea ights for BPD but as yet is un diagnosed she has Type 1 diabeties & to end each crisis withdraws insulin & is hospitalised regularly We are so worried for her

I'm no expert but I do know people suffering from BPD often realize they have a problem but have difficulty talking about it. Once or if she shows any remorse for her actions it could be the perfect time to suggest her getting professional help. Explain that everyone has problems and having unresolved difficulties from their past that if addressed can lead to a happier life and future. I understand it's difficult, patience, understanding and responding to conflict or rage with clam and reason has helped my situation. I wish you and your family all the best

Hey there :)  *welcome*

Sorry to hear about your situation - just something that came to my mind:

Where I work (a complex with several living units for adolescents with mental disorders) we have one unit specialized in BPD + Diabetes. It's a comorbidity with so much more difficulties than each illness on its own. That's why there are institutions who specialize in this - adolescents who have diabetes and don't take care of themselves due to whatever illness. Maybe you can find some place to get informed about possibilities where you live?

All the best