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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Deeno02 on October 16, 2014, 08:40:44 AM



Title: No contact...
Post by: Deeno02 on October 16, 2014, 08:40:44 AM
Its been 20 almost 21 days since we last had contact. She has moved on to the replacement. Should I consider myself safe? I am deathly afraid of the recycling thing and so far so good, that I know of, with the replacement guy as Im sure its still honeymoon, thank you for rescuing me from the evil man I was with(me), your so great and caring, pity me cuz I have 5 kids phase. Any thoughts?


Title: Re: No contact...
Post by: Fluff on October 16, 2014, 09:10:21 AM
It think the answer to the question if you're safe depend on your state of mind, not the likelihood of them contacting us. I'm both hoping for and dreading her contact.


Title: Re: No contact...
Post by: Deeno02 on October 16, 2014, 09:21:12 AM
It think the answer to the question if you're safe depend on your state of mind, not the likelihood of them contacting us. I'm both hoping for and dreading her contact.

Thats the bad part. I should hate her ass for her cruelty and bad stuff she said about my daughter, but here I am, still freakin addicted. Its a shame. I hate her, but love her and I dont know why.


Title: Re: No contact...
Post by: fromheeltoheal on October 16, 2014, 09:29:11 AM
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I hate her, but love her and I dont know why.

21 days is no time at all Deeno, and the answers to that question will become clear as you detach and heal.  And whether you are 'safe' or not is entirely up to you.  The best thing you can do right now is take very good care of yourself: eat right, get some exercise, sleep enough, avoid booze and caffeine, keep reading and posting here, and if you need to talk to a professional, do that.  You may just be entering a period of profound growth, although it may not feel like it right now.  Take care of you!