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Title: Strategies to deal with her sobbing all night Post by: adventurer on October 22, 2014, 10:21:32 AM I have recently told my wife I am considering divorce. She has agreed to enter counseling with me. She says she is having a very big problem resolving the thought that I want to try and work on the relationship with the thought that I still am considering leaving as a viable option if things don't work out.
At times she feels all alone and abandoned, and she is crying a lot. I try to just hold her and tell her that I love her and that she has many friends and family that care about her. I'm not really sure what else I can do. I think I am doing an ok job of being detached about it, but hopefully not too cold and uncaring. I also feel that I need to set some sort of boundary for how much I try to console her as it interferes with my sleep and my free time. Any input people have about this would be greatly appreciated, thanks. Title: Re: Strategies to deal with her sobbing all night Post by: Fatherwith2girls on October 22, 2014, 11:05:18 AM I'm 2 months into a similar situation. She cries A LOT and I do feel for her, but I don't want to show her I feel her pain. If she see's that she isn't going to try to fix her behavior and we'll be back where we were 2 months ago in no time. Currently I have let my wife have her emotional outbursts and tell her exactly why I am not happy. She is owning responsibility for the emotional and verbal abuse which is helpful to me because I think an adult should be able to admit when they are causing problems.
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