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Title: I have a question about counseling.? Post by: goingtostopthis on October 22, 2014, 09:30:08 PM If you go into counseling and and think you are right about what the other person is doing, does this automatically mean that you are really wrong? I mean if you think you have been done wrong and not the person with the problem, does this automatically mean you are the person with the problem?
Title: Re: I have a question about counseling.? Post by: Harri on October 22, 2014, 09:41:18 PM No.
Title: Re: I have a question about counseling.? Post by: Turkish on October 23, 2014, 01:06:37 AM If someone "sends" you to counseling, I can see where these thoughts might arise. It can be hard to approach counseling with an open mind when a pwBPD engages in projection. Is this what is going on?
Not all counselors are created equally either. Title: Re: I have a question about counseling.? Post by: goingtostopthis on October 23, 2014, 01:00:55 PM If someone "sends" you to counseling, I can see where these thoughts might arise. It can be hard to approach counseling with an open mind when a pwBPD engages in projection. Is this what is going on? Not all counselors are created equally either. Yes, I was told that I was the one who had the problems. I went to a counselor to better cope with their problem of treating me this way. I just saw a counselor and he didnt give me any indication that Ive been the one causing all the problems. He helped me learn how to not react to their belittling of me. To stop giving them my power. Title: Re: I have a question about counseling.? Post by: Harri on October 23, 2014, 01:12:47 PM Hi goingTST. Sorry for my short post.
Who told you you were the one with the problems? I am glad you have a counselor who will help you to better cope and deal with them and to stop giving away your power! That is fabulous! I am very happy you have taken this step to help yourself. Title: Re: I have a question about counseling.? Post by: goingtostopthis on October 23, 2014, 11:37:48 PM Me too, Im still a bit confused, but doing this is helping me to calm down so I can see things more clearer.
Ive written all about this in two other posts. I think Ive been getting too lengthy so I lost my audience so to speak, but that's ok. This is a new chapter. Ive been having problems with my sister who I feel is being abusive to me. I told my mother about what has been happening and she didnt want to believe a word I said. My sister has been ranting at me and being irrational. She said I was making it all up. They both live together and have for years. I feel like Ive been bullied and intentionally intimidated by my sister which has caused a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety on me. Im taking care of animals for her that belong to my Aunt who has had a stroke. Im living in the house now. It would be ok with me if she came here maybe once a day or every other day to see if I need extra help or even just to visit with me, buts she's not. She here at least 3 times a day sometimes four. I really dont see the point of even being here.Her obsessiveness of all ways showing up here has really made me nervous and uncomfortable. I dont feel she's allowing me to have any space to just relax and make myself at home. Its making me paranoid because I think she's the one who is acting paranoid and trying to police me in a sense. Ya. that says it. and of course Ive been getting triggered and reacting which is making her come up here even more. Oh joy , rapture! lol Title: Re: I have a question about counseling.? Post by: Harri on October 24, 2014, 08:36:34 AM Hi goingTST, I do remember your story. I was just uncertain who had told you you were the cause of all the problems. I realize now it was your sister.
I believe you will get to a better place in terms of dealing with all the BS and stress. You do have a lot of insight into your situation so that is good and will only help as you work with your T and here to find better coping strategies. So well done on getting yourself some help! :) |