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Title: punishment and revenge Post by: debyt on November 01, 2014, 12:58:41 PM I am planning to go out of town for a two day trip next week and a three day trip in two weeks due to my work. My BPD husband is experiencing abandonment issues and we had it out last night over the fact that I didn't call him back or text him to let him know I got his call regarding him being last to a Halloween party. I didn't take my phone in for the party since I knew he was running late. The whole thing got blown way out of proportion. I explained why I didn't call. He knew that me and the kids were going to be at the church and had already planned to meet us there anyway, regardless of the time. He says I was being disrespectful. I don't see it that way. I just didn't feel the need to return the call to say "I got your call. See ya there.". He says I am acting like a child and if I am going to act like one that he will change the locks while I am gone. I replied that I don't care what he does, I have to go on this trip and if that is what he is going to do, then ok.
#1 Was I disrespectful? #2 I see this as the ramp up for the two trips. Any suggestions as how to deal with all of this. I get sick of this every time I have to go out of town (twice a year, maybe three) |