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Title: Here's the weekend again Post by: kc sunshine on November 01, 2014, 01:06:33 PM Okay fellow detachers, here we are face to face with another weekend! Any fun plans? Pieceofme challenged me to remain NC this weekend, and I'm determined to meet the challenge! I think I'll be able to do it if she doesn't contact me, but so far I haven't been able to not reply if she gets in touch. Odds are she won't get in touch after our last fight, but if she does do you all have any polite, non-escalating ways to decline or defer interaction if she does?
Title: Re: Here's the weekend again Post by: Deeno02 on November 01, 2014, 03:15:00 PM Okay fellow detachers, here we are face to face with another weekend! Any fun plans? Pieceofme challenged me to remain NC this weekend, and I'm determined to meet the challenge! I think I'll be able to do it if she doesn't contact me, but so far I haven't been able to not reply if she gets in touch. Odds are she won't get in touch after our last fight, but if she does do you all have any polite, non-escalating ways to decline or defer interaction if she does? Yep, dont answer... .at all. Title: Re: Here's the weekend again Post by: Rifka on November 01, 2014, 03:17:07 PM Okay fellow detachers, here we are face to face with another weekend! Any fun plans? Pieceofme challenged me to remain NC this weekend, and I'm determined to meet the challenge! I think I'll be able to do it if she doesn't contact me, but so far I haven't been able to not reply if she gets in touch. Odds are she won't get in touch after our last fight, but if she does do you all have any polite, non-escalating ways to decline or defer interaction if she does? KC, just because a phone rings, it does not mean that it has to be answered immediately. Don't respond right away and think a bit before about why this person is calling or contacting you. You are making her think she is too important to you. Take time to wean a bit if possible. We all know it's hard. You do know the best thing to do is to just stop answering permanently! Go to a Halloween event if you can, they are everywhere all this weekend! Hugs Rifka Title: Re: Here's the weekend again Post by: Raybo48 on November 01, 2014, 07:13:14 PM I did this a couple weeks ago and it was really hard. She texted me twice and I deleted the texts without reading them. There was a time period where I wondered what she said, but I realized does it really matter? 90% of the time her reach outs after a certain time period were either to push my buttons to respond or to hurt me. As I sit here now I'm really glad I didn't read them at the time. Ask yourself what could they possibly say that you haven't heard before? Theres nothing new with these people... .They don't change/grow without help and I'd bet if I saw my ex in 10 years it would be the same rodeo with a differnt (guy) pony.
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