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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: lovethebeach on November 07, 2014, 10:37:52 AM



Title: I called my BPDex after the accident
Post by: lovethebeach on November 07, 2014, 10:37:52 AM
This has been the worst two weeks of my life.

First, my exBPD "left" the relationship after I caught him in a series of lies. I've been trying to de-personalize the behavior, but it still hurts.

Second, my mother had two biopsies completed to check for cancer.

Third, my cousin passed away unexpectedly two days ago.

Fourth, yesterday I got into a car accident and now am in a lot of pain with my neck

I swear I could write a movie script. It's hard to be dealing with all of this at once, on top of applying to graduate programs and starting a new job in a few days.

I called my BPDex in a moment of panic and weakness after the accident and he did seem a bit concerned. I then texted him this morning after I left the hospital to say "I get into a serious car accident and you don't care how I am or what they said? Whatever." He responded with "What did they say?" I did not answer.

BPD or not its so inexcusable to me. I could find a stranger to show more compassion and care for what these past few weeks. I don't get it and I probably never will. I think it hurts even more since I'm going through so much ... .then again, it is making me quite angry.


Title: Re: Is this a joke?
Post by: Raybo48 on November 07, 2014, 11:58:19 AM
This has been the worst two weeks of my life.

First, my exBPD "left" the relationship after I caught him in a series of lies. I've been trying to de-personalize the behavior, but it still hurts.

Second, my mother had two biopsies completed to check for cancer.

Third, my cousin passed away unexpectedly two days ago.

Fourth, yesterday I got into a car accident and now am in a lot of pain with my neck

I swear I could write a movie script. It's hard to be dealing with all of this at once, on top of applying to graduate programs and starting a new job in a few days.

I called my BPDex in a moment of panic and weakness after the accident and he did seem a bit concerned. I then texted him this morning after I left the hospital to say "I get into a serious car accident and you don't care how I am or what they said? Whatever." He responded with "What did they say?" I did not answer.

BPD or not its so inexcusable to me. I could find a stranger to show more compassion and care for what these past few weeks. I don't get it and I probably never will. I think it hurts even more since I'm going through so much ... .then again, it is making me quite angry.

Wow I am so sorry you are going through this.  Not only mental pain, but now physical pain.  I hope things get better, I know they will.