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I dreamt about my uBPD mom's best friend last night, who I suspect is highly narcissistic.  Her son and I were childhood friends, up until our mid-twenties.  In fact, we were essentially raised together, and I think I can consider him to have been one of my best friends.  His mother however has never had any use for me whatsoever.  When her son got a girlfriend a few years ago, seems like she was jealous of me, so he and I are no longer friends.  It makes me sad, but I also realized he had some strong NPD traits, so I've moved on. 

Last night, I dream that his mother was crushed by a cardboard boatload of 50 highly overweight men.  She was crushed and unconscious.  As I was the only one who knew her I ran by her side, and she awoke, but was severely injured.  She looked at me and smiled and recognized me as I tried to care for her while the ambulance arrived.  The ambulance arrived and scooped her away, and I remember feeling guilty that maybe I should have gone in the ambulance.  Then we started to talk about how we should tell the family about what had happenned... .the END.

So strange, but this woman and her son have been a really sore point for me in the last few years, as I realized that she had really no use for me, and her son was really about stature, and appearances.  He is extremely good looking and wealthy, and has found a girl to suite his needs.  What is also interesting about this, is I pointed this out to my mother about a year ago, and my mother's response was: well did you do anything to anger him?  And I have just found out from my mother that this life long friend of hers is no longer in touch with her, doesn't call her etc... .It has been 6 months apparently.  It seemed a bit of a sore point for my mother. But looks like she's also finding out the value of their frienship (which from my perspective was simply one of competing... .and according to appearances her NPD friend had been winning hands down when it came to marrying a rich man, living an extravagant life, etc) although lately, my mother has two adorable grandchildren and she is rubbing it in the face of her grandchild-less friends... .including NPD woman... .Anyway, sorry I digress.  But that dream is such a strange one.  My uBPD mom's NPD friend gets crushed? and becomes a nice person to me for the first time? In my dream I actually questionned if her scorn of me had all been a perception, because she was so nice... .but I figured it was the effects of the accident!

I'm no expert, but one way of interpreting dreams is to disregard all the details and focus on the actions.  Therefore:

1. She was crushed - this doesn't have to be physical; maybe emotionally? 

2. By big men - her son's status may well be interpreted as big or important; maybe her son being involved with a girlfriend has changed the nature of his relationship with his mother

3. She is nicer to other people since this happened

Just guessing.

Hi Thank you for your insight.  I feel like maybe her crushing is in fact a result of my own healing... .As I grow, and understand the different dynamics at play between me, my mother, and her NPD friend, I have been able to see if for what it is and reject it.  I think in a way I have slayed the dragon... .and it turns out that the dragon is simply another wounded human being that is no longer threatenning to me.  It's really amazing how people are only threatening if you take them seriously. If you don't take them seriously, then... .they have no power over you.  I'm starting to see this more and more everywhere.  I think as I heal, and have greater respect for myself, I no longer put others on a pedestal, and see them for what they are.  Maybe the big men in the cardboard boat (weird... .)... .is a symbol of my own inner strength! hahaha. But I think it's true that in the end, she was no longer a threat to me.  It was so strange.