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I have my youngest every wednesday. Something I have noticed is every time I go to collect him she says goodbye to him and then says she is going to have a nice hot bath. At first I didnt find this odd but four weeks in a row she has done this. One thiught that springs to mind is she used to have hot baths when she was stressed. Could it be me going tgere stresses her out that much?

Hi,

Maybe you´re ruminating... .obsessing with whys and whats. I don´t know why she says that, but I believe it probably is more FOG and crazy behavior that you´re better off without... .I hope I don´t sound invalidating. You are worthy, and she isn´t over you. It´s not your fault, it´s her troubled inner world. A giving, caring and mature woman wouldn´t make you wonder these kinds of things, she would be clear, reciprocal, and direct.

Peace!

It's frustrating and confusing enlighten me. You may or may not be right and sometimes BPD behavior makes no sense. The distorted belief system is an enigma, wrapped in a riddle, surrounded by mystery. Sometimes I can't make sense of something I have to let it go. It only confuses more. Hope that helps.

Hi whatathing, mutt

I know im probably over analyzing it. The thing is that since discovering about BPD  there have been so many lightbulb moments. There are also so many things that remain unanswered. Its sad but by understanding her more i can protect myself better. The hard thing is working out what is relevant.

Enlighten, its been almost 3 months now for me and I still have lightbulb moments. Its abuse. When people are faced with traumas, a lot of times they are repressed. Sometimes when your taken out of the environment, the reason its repressed is no longer there and it becomes clear. Im still remembering crap she said to me or did that I ignored(repressed) that pop up. All it does is confirm that Im better off without her. I almost married her. Jeez, what the hell was I thinking!