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Many things are moving today. I remind myself the dips will come. Wil give thanks for small miracles.

Found 2 bedroom apartment in old house. Few block walk to buses. In same town for DD28 to continue the dui alcohol treatment that is first step toward getting her probationary drivers license back. Center on bus route.  :)D is showing apt to friend tomorrow who is also looking for apartment. Hope landlord contacts us tomorrow.

Brought DD home to celebrate with pizza,. Initially gd avoided dd by going to open space to play until pizza came.  She crept over and gave her a hug. Dd asked to go to church sunday again and gd seems open going.

Dh thinks I am too soft and tolerant with gd. Why did he wait for dd to be here. I am pondering his timing for this revelation. I tried to talk about PTSD and examples of the trauma in our home with dd. Dd had gone out to call girls in for pizza during this conversation.

On another subject, I had some follow up tests today due to uncertainty on mammogram. Determined the problem areas were benign cysts. Will get screened in a year. Such a relief.

Tomorrow is a new day. Whatever comes, today will always be good.

Qcr

So nice to read this post!  Congratulations on your mammogram news, you must have been so worried!  And I am so happy to hear of all the progress in your family.   |iiii

Dear qcr.  See I knew there would be good news for you . I know Im not alone on here sending you positive uplifting prayers all for you and your family so so so happy for your good news in health dept now it is going to shuffle down to your dd and gd and dh and you enjoy your day and upcoming holiday god bless you and yours   

DD applied for a 2 bedroom apartment in the next town (5 miles away) and I got approval today for her to rent it from the owner. It is a Victorian house built in 1900 for the Owner or supervisor of the coal mine that founded this town. A little run down from it's original glory. THe 7 bedrooms and 5 bathrooms have been divided in to 5 separate apartments. The 2 bedroom is through the big front door, original hardwood floors ( hey mom, I don't need a vacumn just a broom and mop - she hates the vacumn, too noisy and awkward and it sucks up shoe strings etc), beautiful round topped windows in front. It feels like a 'real house', not just an apartment. We are all so excited for her. She has a friend that is interested in sharing this with her, which really will help with the rent.

I told the onsite manager (he has one of the small apartments) since I was co-signing DD and I would be having a bi-weekly cleaning party. This way I can quietly keep track of how she is doing and if any unwanted's are staying there. One of her biggest problems managing where she lives is keeping friends from staying over and not leaving.

I know reality will keep coming with those many steps back and forth. Just seems the steps forward are continuing to count for more than the steps back. Finding a path to unconditional love for my DD, while I stick to my personal values based boudnaries, has been a key change in our family. Plus taking better care of my own neediness in appropriate ways.

I will keep you posted as the move begins this week :) :)

qcr

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That is all very good news so far, qcr.

I am happy for all the little steps forward your dd is making. Let's celebrate those for now, yes?

As long as you have a realistic plan for possible dips down the road, there is no need to let that spoil the happiness of today.


 Is your dh usually sharing whatever he has on his mind at the moment, or do you think his timing was intentional?

You can always ask him about it at a quiet time when he won't be likely to feel defensive... .

Love reading the happy stories! Seeing the happiness is proof that there is hope for all of us.  Enjoy the time.