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Title: Read posts on the "staying" board. not missing him anymore. Post by: Seriously? on November 22, 2014, 08:28:24 PM Since I have been tearful today, missing my ex, I thought maybe I'd read some of what folks who have made the conscious choice to stay have to say. I had many flashbacks to times I had "managed" in my relationship. You know what? I don't want to manage, to cope. I want to live life to the fullest. I had to stifle the parts of me that threatened him. I was regularly woken up in the middle of the night because he wanted to discuss something with me. He questioned my every move. I had to constantly explain and defend myself. The good times were fabulous, but not worth ever dealing with the chaos of having him in my life. I am a very trustworthy person. I have flaws and am not perfect. That is why our relationship cannot be saved.
Title: Re: Read posts on the "staying" board. not missing him anymore. Post by: Mutt on November 23, 2014, 01:07:41 AM Seriously?,
That's frustrating getting woken up in the middle of the night. The best way I found to describe it like the book is "Walking on Eggshells". Boy, I don't miss it. It's a reminder and lesson that you have one life to live. Live and learn. There are many valuable lessons in these r/s's. Own your part and grow. |