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I thought I was doing better and haven't been posting much but still come on to read every day. I am so unbelievable depressed today all I want to do is sleep just to stop hurting and thinking.  I am very close to canceling Thanksgiving dinner at my house because I'm just so down. Is anyone feeling this way with the holiday coming?

I did lots and lots of sleeping for a while, for the same reason, just wanted to escape, and definitely didn't feel like doing anything at all.  That's depression, as you mention, and just try and put one foot in front of the other.  It will pass.

Thanksgiving could be a distraction and time spent with people who don't stress us out if always a good thing, healing, although holidays can be painful too, depending on the situation.  I say focus on connecting with people you can trust and can be vulnerable with and go for the healing ride, unless it's so much that you can't function at all, but you may benefit from pushing through.  Take care of you!

I think of it like this: My ex hurt me for years during our relationship and I couldn't help it. Now that it's over I can help it. Often these things need to run their course and it takes time but there are ways to speed up the process with distractions. I like to read and listen to music because it stops my inner dialogue from thinking of her. Our thoughts can either make us or break us, so when you catch yourself in depressing thoughts change the subject to happier ones. I of all people know it isn't easy but the hurting and depression you feel is self induced, YOU can stop it at any time.

Enjoy your turkey!

Sorry you are feeling down. Holidays can intensify things and can be difficult. Depression is tough and the natural instinct is to want to be alone when you are down. The best way to work through it is to be around people though. It's hard but keep pushing ahead. It will get better gradually with ups and downs along the way, but you can get through these tough times. I can almost guarantee you will like the person you have become once you break through this pain and suffering.

You are doing better. What you have to realise is that there will be times when it gets to you again. These times will get less and last less. Imcafraid its just part of the healing process.

Dont cancell thanks giving as hiding uourself away will not help you. Having people arounf you who care for you will.

I am so sorry you are having a down day.

It's just me and the kids this year for T-giving... .so we are making food WE want to eat!

It's easier for me to handle the holidays, because ours have been so screwed up for so many years... .it will be nice to be able to do whatever WE want to do.

Surround yourself with those who truly love you and want to support you.

I feel with you ... .

I don't think I am going to miss the holidays and she's not around .

I recall not having any normal good celebration for Xmas New Year , and now Thanks giving , I really Don't .

But I stayed in for five long years .

Per example, and this happened every year ,she goes and get grocery to feed an army . Get excited , get things put up unthaw the turkey and say I am so tired and I will cook all day tomorrow ,after a half a day at work I come home And guess what's he's doing ?

Sleeping  :)

He has ruined may holidays in the past and most ended up spent with just him and because he made my family uncomfortable. I know all these bad things about him and I just can't understand why I miss him so much and would take him back in a heartbeat. It really makes me feel like I am the crazy one.