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Well, like an idiot, I thought it was a bright idea to warn the new girl.  I have tried to stay out of his life, but all the exes are now great friends and we are all up and down and at different stages of healing depending on the day.

The Ex before me has been stalking his new flames blog.  This chick shares ALL details of her life with the 5,000 plus readers she has... to me that is insane behavior in itself but whatever.

To get you up to speed, he is bipolar (diagnosed) and undiagnosed BPD.  She is his latest conquest, and like all of us before her, it's a whirl wind romance.  Started dating end of September and already SO in love, they are best friends and soul mates... just as he was with all of us.

She is an exstripper/wrestler porn star AND bi polar herself.

Anyway, she is blogging how they are in love, and she usually would be concerned with it going so fast or the fact that he punched a whole in her wall the other night out of no where... but hey, guys punch walls sometimes (uh, not normal ones... ).

She says in her blog that he also told her all his exes were needy and needing rescue and he only wants a girl who is independent and has her own thing.  THAT IS WHAT THE LAST FIVE WOMEN HE HAD ARE! What the hell?  He lived with us, worked a crummy job and drove a piece of ___ car while we all had good careers, our own homes, circles, good community involvement.  I mean he has dated some of the most amazing women (not bragging but I am amazed at the quality of the women he has had, if he had been smart he would have married any one of them and never even met me). 

Anyway, against my better judgement I was told about this blog entry and I went and read it and just felt angry.  And like I needed to pay it forward because his ex before tried to warn me early on and I didn't listen.  HOW I WISH I HAD, SHE COULD HAVE SAVED ME SOO MUCH HEARTACHE.

Well, I post that she should do her homework, inquire about why all exes won't have a thing to do with him, That she seems like an intelligent gal, just keep her head on a swivel.

She responds like I am a nut, says "thanks for looking out for me, but he told me all about you and why it didn't work out, but good luck on finding someone to push into marrying you... .

WHAT?  He was the one that took it to that level and the speed it was.  I was just looking for a decent guy to date, no expectations.

I am mad at myself today.  I have affected my holiday by allowing myself to be dragged back into his filth.

Happy Freaking Holidays... .

When she's getting what she wants, and he's getting what he wants that will only increase their bond. Its why as mad as I was about the replacement and as much as I wanted to say something I didn't because all she needs to do is drive on over there for some sex or something and say he's crazy stalker psycho and he beat me and that whirlwind of love and story will overcome anything I have to say lol.

Leave it alone... .LOL its like think back to High school when mom or dad said don't date him, it only attached you more made you want it more.

And if she's an ex stripper/porn start lol you are already fighting with an illogical person who would choose such a career field lmao.

These replacements will learn, maybe not now or in 3,4,5 months but they will.

*I will add it can also appear petty. Now I know we all have seen behind the "WOW SOULMaTES" act, but to someone who hasn't its petty... .Its one reason I didn't push to get lots of cash/jewlery back from her over 5 figures after it was official, because it can be spun against you. Even if your 1000 percent right it just gets taken the wrong way.

In my experience, if you step away and let Karma do her thing, she (karma) will exact revenge and justice for you quickly and swiftly.

You mean well to warn her but theres also a little part of us that wants to warn the replacement to speed up the inevitable implosion of the new supply. That will only deepen it for them instead.

Its hard but let it go. It will come full circle that much sooner


:)

Yup knowing mine she'd look to not only enact revenge but it would tighten the bond... .it'll play out