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Title: Feeling guilty for taking distance Post by: Mie on November 27, 2014, 03:34:58 PM My pwBPD is going through difficult times, which means major dysregulation. Meanwhile I am burdened with running (our!) business and financial disaster. He is either in the bedroom watching whatever or drinking and raging all over the house. 2-3 days a week he is sober, active and sociable and taking care of business. And still explosive any moment.
So I bury myself in work, and if I'm not working I'm on my own. I pay attention to him and ask if he wants a cup of tea, which he appreciates, but does not move from his screen. I don't avoid him but I take distance being busy elsewhere. I feel guilty for it, but I think I shouldn't. Tomorrow I'm going to meet a friend, we're going to make a good walk and a nice meal and just talk. I'm going to spent an entire evening with a sane person! :) Title: Re: Feeling guilty for taking distance Post by: foggydew on November 27, 2014, 04:15:53 PM Well done, you! I think you are doing exactly the right thing. Even in 'normal' relationships it's good to have time out and look after yourself. And he is getting space to sort himself out too. Good luck!
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