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Ex gf sends simple email!  I'm sure some of you know my story but what is this?   Has anyone else had this crap?

Are we able to say goodbye? I want to say goodbye before I start a relationship please.

Just wanted to say goodbye before I began.

No drama, just a last goodbye for closure before I commit.

mine used to try that approach as a way to get me to break NC and talk to her. It was mines way of saying " Im leaving for good better stop "

You don't owe her and this is a hidden barb, looking on the surface like an emotional plea but actually a dagger. Dont give her the satisfaction. Think of yourself.

There could be any number of reasons but I wouldn't bother trying to work out the correct one.  Completely disordered. NC keeps control in your hands.  You can't control them and nor should you - but NC will prevent them from controlling you, IMHO.

It seems to me tgat they want to say goodbye but also know you have feelings for. They want to know that they meant something to you.

It means: Please, keep NC, please.

Well wouldn't I just love to know that myself from my friend wBPD.

Caresabouts, here's the thing. If we have to resort to a message board of strangers to figure out what an email means, then this person doesn't deserve our time and attention. I think that's the thing that just kills me. We're always the ones trying to figure IT out... .whatever IT is or WAS! Healthy relationships don't typically involve unclear, crazy-making emails - or at least that's what I've been told. Take good care of yourself, my friend.

You all help to keep my sanity, I think we all my hope they saw the light and will be normal,

But your right keepongoing, if it was normal I would not be on this board

I agree with Trog.