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Title: Here he goes again... Post by: LuckyEscapee on November 30, 2014, 07:16:59 PM Keeping you in the loop about a long term ex-uBPDbf situation. As background, my relationship with my ex ended 2.5 years ago, and I have been NC for well over 1.5 of those. I was replaced almost immediately and he got engaged and together they now have one year old. Yet this year, he has contacted me in January, April and now again today!
He knows I have blocked him in every possible way and changed all my numbers/emails, except for my public corporate email address, and so he uses a new email each time to bypass my filters. So despite him clearly knowing I want nothing to do with him and the fact I never respond, he still choses to invade my space. What is funny, and the reason I am posting is that I was only thinking the other week, that two and a half years on from the madness, he feels like a total stranger to me. The painted black hell I went through is still very vivid, but to think I was once so emotionally close to this man who is somewhere out there feels like a lifetime ago. I feel nothing, whereas I used to feel everything so acutely. How true the saying, “Time is a great healer” is. I used to get freaked out by contact, but now I am simply irked at his continued audacity. He emails me at 3am, so he doesn’t expect an immediate reply, but I never reply anyhow, so he won’t be expecting a reply full stop. He only messaged a “I am missing you” throwaway fast-food of a communication, so it’s not like he invested much time or thought into the process LOL. He won’t be missing me, because I am not sure he ever realised who I actually was. More likely he is lacking some soothing, or short of money given it can be a stressful time of year. Who knows? Who actually cares? Not me! Whatever, I am positive I don’t care. My life is positively serene and EASY by comparison. I can breathe, I can sleep, and I can laugh again. I suspect he won’t ever stop popping up, but that is the small splinter I will have to live with I guess. Stay strong out there people, it does get better Title: Re: Here he goes again... Post by: Panda39 on November 30, 2014, 08:53:15 PM This kind of thing reminds me of the old Ma Bell phone commercials (I date myself )
"Reach out, reach out and touch someone. Reach out and just say Hi!" It's really reach out and... .see if I can suck you back in Such a pain in the you know what Title: Re: Here he goes again... Post by: Elpis on November 30, 2014, 09:39:31 PM Oh Panda, I was pregnant during that run of commercials and I would cry every single time! lol
LuckyEscapee, thank you so much for giving me a bit of hope for the future if I just keep working on this detaching process. :) |