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No, not my real mother. Early on my ex liked for me to call her Mommy sometimes, she found it endearing. And I had a pretty horrible relationship with my mother growing up. Some due to her, and some due to me being angry at her for divorcing my dad. Because the divorce pretty much triggered my down fall (I was 5).

Anyways, did any of you have dynamics like this? This isn't sexual. I guess she liked being maternal and I liked getting what I never got from my mother. She'd read stories to me when we'd act like this. I honestly think losing my Mommy was more traumatizing than losing her as a partner, lol. Okay, I'm done neutering and emasculating myself for today! Hope I'm not alone... .

youre not alone building,

i felt the same way. especially when she used to bake me cookies or tuck me in. i felt this love much like i never felt from my own mother as well.

i would call her mom by accident though never on purpose because the bad side of her reminded me alot of my mom especially when fighting.

she felt the same apparently and when id get angry after her setting me off shed be like youre just like my dad! or youre not my father/stop trying to be my father!

she also referred to herself mothering me jokingly sometimes. then during devaluation she used this as a slight.

the weirdest thing is when shed call me daddy in a sexual way during my relationship. mostly the look in her eyes and the fact that she got raped by him as a child. and she called me it alot.

anyways i too am done now because the last part is a place i dont like to go in my head for too long. ha

Can't say I can relate to this one... .

On the flip side she certainly used to see me as kind of a father figure although I am not that much older.

Mine acted really weird with this. Sometimes she was babying me, acting like a dominant mother and then sometimes she acted like a little baby herself. It really confused me.