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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: peiper on December 12, 2014, 01:58:31 AM



Title: Cutting
Post by: peiper on December 12, 2014, 01:58:31 AM
Though my exBPD didn't cut she does have a niece that does. . It makes me wonder if it's somewhat passed down through generations by the way they are raised. The niece was the only one that backed up my ex about my kidding around and teasing. Which was always in good humor. But the ex could not tolerate my kidding around and neither could her niece.


Title: Re: Cutting
Post by: Jmanster on December 12, 2014, 03:12:09 AM
My mom is a therapist and she says yes. She constantly told me to be careful and make sure that I do NOT get my exBPD pregnant, because if I do her genes will pass down onto the kids and the kids will suffer from BPD as well. Go on YouTube and search for "Biology of Belief, you will learn so much.


Title: Re: Cutting
Post by: peiper on December 12, 2014, 04:14:43 AM
I'd never thought genetic. Could be. I was thinking learned family dynamics.  The exBPDw's mother was a real wak job. So it would only make sense that the other sister is handing it down too. I kinda think the ex's daughter has BPD traits also. She's married,  does all the driving and her husband does whatever she says. It always struck me as being rather strange. Then again being old fashioned and working in the oil field all my life I could have a skewed perspective.


Title: Re: Cutting
Post by: Dutched on December 12, 2014, 05:22:54 AM
Neither being an expert, but based on readings, there is more and more evidence that BPD is genetically transferred. I found 42-48%  (can’t find the source)

Again based on, it can be dormant, not visible, until triggered by an event.

Further there is the part of upbringing, a learned aspect within the family, if you wish.

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3268672/

www.trace.tennessee.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=3544&context=utk_gradthes

www.web.utk.edu/~macfie/jenny/docs/documents/SRCDHandout_maltreatment_.pdf

With a rather confronting title, but written by a psychologist:

www.patch.com/california/malibu/bp--how-mothers-spread-borderline-personality-disordeed7a820675

I see it in exw (HF but turbulent in personal relations), no cutting, however in her younger days wearing a very tight leather bracelet (hurts when it shrinks as it dry up… “you know, then I really feel myself”…)

Anyway, exw mother, sisters and brother with many traits, their uncle (brother of their mother) and grandma. Summarising: 10yrs psychological treatment, unable to hold jobs for a longer period, emotional breakdowns, alcohol abuses, into a rehab clinic.

And according to me, it is inherited by my daughter too, who I lost during the process.