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I missed another event, 3 older sibs getting together for xmass and am now in their doghouse. How to explain myself, Saw one a couple weeks ago but haven't seen the others in a fwe years.

I did not even let W know as it would just make her feel guilty and she won;t go stay at her mom's.

When am I going grow a set and just leave her alone while I make these events. I have fallen into that catagory that thinks it is just easier for me not to go.

I'm on the undecided board but really want it to all go away. Very tired of this.

Pressure all around. W,D Sis's.  My son , no pressure. Been 5 years .

I gotta do something.

imagine you attended these events. can you describe what the reaction at home would be?

Hey Henry, We've all been there.  Problem is, it leads to isolation, which is when you can lose all perspective.  You really need your family and friends right now, in my view.  Can you apologize or do something to make it up with your sibs?  They might be more sympathetic if you explain that you are in a bad place (if that's true), and need their support.  LuckyJim

Yes lucky. I have the best sisters in the world. And have told them I am sorry. Just trying to keep it together . Have always looked out for their little brother and have been fretting for the last few years.  uBPDw was always a joy to have around. They loved her. Thought I was fortunate to meet her after a divorce and glad I moved on.

She liighted up the room where ever she went. Little did I know that was not really her. Since I retired she has gone steadily down and is at rock bottom now.

Very depressed and dragging me down too.

We had a seriuos discussion today on way to T. She want freedom . We need to make some plans. Together or separate.

She is very housebound.  Sad, sad, sad.