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Title: Taking on other person's issues ? Post by: Henry II on December 20, 2014, 12:16:33 PM I know I have read so much that I have read where BP's will take on other person's issues to bring attention back to themselves.
uBPDw 's mom is in hoepital with severe stomach pains and uBPDw starts talking about getting herself to the ER. I know that is "WHAT ABOUT ME" behavior. If my attention or her sib's is diverted. She has behaved this way before. I believe there is a name for it. Is it "projecting" ? It's her mom for crying out loud. Title: Re: Taking on other person's issues ? Post by: Mutt on December 21, 2014, 10:15:02 PM uBPDw 's mom is in hoepital with severe stomach pains and uBPDw starts talking about getting herself to the ER. I know that is "WHAT ABOUT ME" behavior. If my attention or her sib's is diverted. *welcome* Hi Henry II, Is your spouse diagnosed or shows BPD traits? We're not professionals and cannot diagnose. Projection is a different behavior. Non-disordered people project sub-consciously and the behavior is greater in a pwBPD. It's sort of like playing a game of tag your it! It works sub-consciously and it is taking uncomfortable feelings and actions and attributing it to someone else. Has she displayed this pattern of attention seeking? It's possible there may be co-morbidity. BPD and Histrionic Personality Disorder. Borderline personality is marked by unstable self-image, mood, behavior, and relationships. (MIL + BIL) Affected people tend to believe they were deprived of adequate care during childhood and consequently feel empty, angry, and entitled to nurturance. As a result, they relentlessly seek care and are sensitive to its perceived absence. (MIL + BIL) Their relationships tend to be intense and dramatic. When feeling cared for, they appear like lonely waifs who seek help for depression, substance abuse, eating disorders, and past mistreatments. (MIL) When they fear the loss of the caring person, they frequently express inappropriate and intense anger. These mood shifts are typically accompanied by extreme changes in their view of the world, themselves, and others—eg, from bad to good, from hated to loved. When they feel abandoned, they dissociate or become desperately impulsive. (MIL) Their concept of reality is sometimes so poor that they have brief episodes of psychotic thinking, such as paranoid delusions and hallucinations. (MIL) They often become self-destructive and may self-mutilate or attempt suicide. They initially tend to evoke intense, nurturing responses in caretakers, but after repeated crises, vague unfounded complaints, and failures to comply with therapeutic recommendations, are viewed as help-rejecting complainers. (MIL) Borderline personality tends to become milder or to stabilize with age. (Really?) (See also the American Psychiatric Association's Guideline Watch: Practice Guideline for the Treatment of Patients With Borderline Personality Disorder.) -------------------------- Histrionic personality involves conspicuous attention seeking. (MIL + BIL) Affected people are also overly conscious of appearance and are dramatic. (MIL + BIL) Their expression of emotions often seems exaggerated, childish, and superficial. (MIL + BIL) Still, they frequently evoke sympathetic or erotic attention from others. (MIL + BIL) Relationships are often easily established and overly sexualized but tend to be superficial and transient. Behind their seductive behaviors and their tendency to exaggerate somatic problems (ie, hypochondriasis [see Table 1: Personality Disorders: Coping Mechanisms]) often lie more basic wishes for dependency and protection. (BIL) --------------- DIFFERENCES|COMORBIDITY: Borderline and Histrionic Personality Disorder (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=61196.0) |