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Title: I'm New Post by: DIRO on December 25, 2014, 06:30:48 AM Hi,
I've been experiencing conflict with my wife of 8 years now for the last 7. They tend to get worse around stressful situations and I can never seem to do anything right. My wife believes I have a problem as a result of my upbringing in an alcoholic and abusive home. I am a recovering alcoholic, 13 years sober. We have 3 young boys (5yrs, 1.5yr twins). I was able to convince my wife and I to go to therapy (individual) this year. She insisted I do 3 sessions on my own before she would go herself. I've been working with a therapist for the past 3 months and this week he shared with me that, while I have my own issues it seems to him that my wife may have Borderline Personality Disorder with PTSD. He suggested that I start reading and researching as much as possible about the disorder. I've realized that I'm co-dependent and have been working on these issues with success. It's been helpful to realize that it's not all my fault and I've been more assertive the past two months. I'm looking for information, experience, anything helpful that I can begin to use as I look at our relationship under this new light. Thanks. Title: Re: I'm New Post by: Crumbling on December 25, 2014, 06:44:07 AM *welcome*
Hi, DIRO! Breaking through co-dependency is a great first step! You've found a great resource here on this site. It can really help with your journey into a better life. The Lessons on the right are a good place to start learning, and will help you understand the disease and how to gain tools to help you through the tough times. C. |