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Title: Enough was enough, I needed to have a voice Post by: GoodThingsToCome on December 30, 2014, 02:43:09 AM Hi all,
Its been a while since I've posted and almost 4 months post B/U. I've had to have a couple of email exchanges with my ex recently, and enough become enough for me... .she was acting so artificially friendly with me (telling me this is how she acts with everyone, I guess since she is "happy" now), saying she has no hard feelings towards me (why would she? I ran after her the whole time), but at the same time there was this underlying parent-child tone in her emails towards me. I guess it all became too much, she has known I've been struggling and for her to behave like that is just inappropriate and insensitive. I basically called her out big time regarding her past behaviour, and I told her that I know exactly who she is and what she has done. She then said she had accepted responsibility for her abusive behaviour and moved on (she clearly doesn't know what genuinely accepting responsibility means) and she said she hoped I would too (I know I had made mistakes, but I was never abusive to her). Her response also then questioned my mental state (lol). I guess I just find it unbelievable how they twist things and how they move on as if their behaviour was normal. The ridiculous thing is I'm left feeling a bit guilty for slamming her, but I know that I wasn't just attacking her for no reason... .I was calling her out on her behaviour, which is factual. I was an enabler for too long... .I just felt I needed to have a voice so she knows enough is enough. She will never change unless people call her out. I don't think it makes any difference in her mind though... . Not sure what response I expect from this... .I guess I'm just posting thoughts. Title: Re: Enough was enough, I needed to have a voice Post by: Infern0 on December 30, 2014, 03:05:41 AM Is there any reason you still have contact?
NC actually works, being in contact just prolongs your agony Title: Re: Enough was enough, I needed to have a voice Post by: GoodThingsToCome on December 30, 2014, 03:11:23 AM Hi Infern0,
Unfortunately there is a reason, we have to dissolve certain commitments we entered into together. We had been NC for a while which did help but ultimately we need to finalize certain things. Almost any interaction with her is some open door for her to jab at me, whether directly by telling me how "happy" she has been or indirectly via her artificially "friendly" tone or demanding undertones in her mails. Not only that, she completely painted me black in an email including one of her friends... .with lies about me, my character, and the relationship. So ye, it is something we need to go through. I kinda just snapped because I'm tired of feeling like a punching bag. Title: Re: Enough was enough, I needed to have a voice Post by: Infern0 on December 30, 2014, 03:15:35 AM That sucks, hopefully you can wrap up your business quickly and get away.
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