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Title: just found out she's got married
Post by: Naddred369 on January 03, 2015, 05:10:44 PM
Hi, not been here for awhile, found our she got married after less than a year.

Her daughter told my daughter on fb and my daughter eventually told me.

I can't stop laughing,  they have married under 12 months of meeting.

Her daughter isn't happy.

He's stuck with her now,  good luck pal.

Her daughter(my step daughter) told this to my daughter on fb this week.The kids love each other.

I am now free.

Happy 2015.


Title: Re: just found out she's got married
Post by: Tim300 on January 03, 2015, 05:35:01 PM
Ha.  Start the timer on this marriage. 

Now that I know about BPD (and other PDs), there is absolutely no way I would get married to someone under 12 months of meeting.  I want sufficient vetting time.     


Title: Re: just found out she's got married
Post by: Trog on January 03, 2015, 05:37:40 PM
Ha.  Start the timer on this marriage. 

Now that I know about BPD (and other PDs), there is absolutely no way I would get married to someone under 12 months of meeting.  I want sufficient vetting time.     

It does change our perspective on everything, I had no clue people like this existed, for some naive reason I thought everyone wanted to be happy and was trying their best. Tbh the red flags were therefor day 1 so I think 12 months is safe from BPD, maybe not long enough for every type of crazy!


Title: Re: just found out she's got married
Post by: Naddred369 on January 03, 2015, 05:44:51 PM
The poor sod!

He deserves all he gets now.

She snared him rapidly, and he will suffer.

Her daughter asks if I'm ok!

Least someone appreciated me.

It validates me coz I loved the child and she loves my daughter so we did something special methinks.

Despite all the bad things I am, I have never married in the space of 8 months. It's not right.

Our kids are happy messaging and she's married!

Boogaloo!


Title: Re: just found out she's got married
Post by: Naddred369 on January 03, 2015, 06:01:11 PM
It just proves she's BPD.

But it proves that my daughter And made a difference to her child, my stepdaughter.

Things matter, love matters!


Title: Re: just found out she's got married
Post by: Infern0 on January 03, 2015, 06:27:56 PM
Tick tock,  atomic bomb.


Title: Re: just found out she's got married
Post by: Naddred369 on January 03, 2015, 06:36:44 PM
I've done everything to heal myself for so long and to find reality is a great healer is amazing.

No one on this planet marries after 8 months in normal reality.  The kids love each other,  that's normal!

I did my best

Boosh!


Title: Re: just found out she's got married
Post by: Naddred369 on January 03, 2015, 07:52:15 PM
Fecking yay, and yay me too,

His boundaries must be terrible!

You won her, you keep her!



Title: Re: just found out she's got married
Post by: Hope0807 on January 03, 2015, 08:21:18 PM
Naddrred369,

Your joy expressed here is wonderful and contagious!  Thank you so much for sharing that you have healed and actually find peace in the type of news you just discovered.

Awesome! |iiii


Title: Re: just found out she's got married
Post by: Naddred369 on January 03, 2015, 08:35:20 PM
I'm not healed properly,  but know she's BPD and nasty.  So, he has her!  No longer my drama.

our kids still love each other so the love was there in the rs.2 kids and a decent man survived. I still have my children after all. Im so happy!

Truly.


Title: Re: just found out she's got married
Post by: antjs on January 03, 2015, 08:45:10 PM
you are just projecting on your ex's new supply.

you are still focusing on her but not you.

you waited for this to happen to confirm that she is BPD though all that you have been through with her and that tells how much do you trust yourself and your own opinion.


forget about her and start shifting the focus on yourself. live in the present. |iiii