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... .I broke contact, got her off my lease and got my keys back months ago. She had suggested no contact but can't seem to stick with that. Meanwhile, I'm moving on in my life.

I did break my rule, when one email came through all the filters. I wrote back and told her my thoughts and asked her not to contact. That maybe we could be friends sometime in the distant future and that perhaps we could meet for coffee then. Mistake I know, but I figured she would not stop anyway.

This weekend I found out she emailed my ex-wife, saying that she couldn't be as bad as I had said, and would she like meet her for coffee to talk. My ex called me and we discussed and I came clean on the situation. I phone my mom to tell her to be polite if she called and to document the contact, but to be brief and tell her it is inappropriate. We told our son not to go with her from Childcare/School and talked frankly to him about her (she has no permission anyway). I phoned the police service and got advice on what to do if there is threatening contact, so that I can protect myself and file a harassment charge and get a restraining order.

I have a new girlfriend. I'm afraid my crazy ex-girlfriend will show up at my door somehow. I told my new girlfriend the situation. I also altered one co-worker as we both work on the same campus. I'm worried she will show up at my work.

After my best Christmas ever (last year with her was my worst), I was happy but tired and then she invaded my psyche again.

Today, I received returned a very nice gift I had got for her a long time ago: mailed as a parcel, with no return address with a letter inside.

It is scary to me. It is so full of crazy lies and perceptions ... .

Letter from a BPD ex-girlfriend:

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Dear_____,

I am sending this to you as a means of saying goodbye. I want you to feel safe and I want to feel safe, too, and I know we never will if we remain even tangentially in each others lives.

... .

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It get's crazy from there. I was going to type the whole thing, but what's the point? The whole thing is just manipulative and more contact. I'm filing it as potential evidence and moving forward.

Should I be concerned?

wayfarer.

You have to get on with your life without anxiety about what she may be up to.  Mine sent me quite a few spooky threatening texts - but really they are no different to any of her other promises.  The promise to love me forever was a joke, and so to are the threats.  Take no notice, stay NC and keep going as you are - sounds like you are doing well with moving on.

Thanks for the feedback and encouragement!