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Title: are they more likely to recycle quicker if at all if u didn't catch on to their Post by: emancipated on January 07, 2015, 07:46:17 PM I'm at 2 months of consistent nc... and it has been very low contact since august... she moved on quickly... hid the relationship between her and the replacement and quite candidly didn't make him or anything about him her profile pic on Facebook .we broke up almost 7 months ago and dumped me for good 6 months ago. Since she has not intiatated contact not once... gave away the dog we adopted together ... and replaced me with a guy almost 20 years older than her... meanwhile I fell into a dark place almost died from having gall bladder removed. At first it was all my fault... then I found out about the old man and sent her a text to which she attempted to call me 8 times trying to explain... Followed by any attempt to try and even talk to her being met with leave me alone. The last time we spoke it was different she asked me if me and my separated wife reconciled and if I got the job I was trying to get which caught me off guard as it was no attempt to get her back it was to only ask about the dog. I still miss her and some peole I have spoken to seem to think I will hear from her at dome point . is there any examples of let's say i went quietly into the night and didn't look into her lies or anything would she might have returned because her facade is intact? Or could her shame of being outed be keeping her in her current relationship... Fyi new years resolution is to not look at her Facebook or pics again as she added a pic of her w a ring on her finger
Title: Re: are they more likely to recycle quicker if at all if u didn't catch on to their Post by: Confused? on January 07, 2015, 07:57:38 PM I define love as the trust between two people and the bond they have for eachother. For instance I love my family. I trust they will always lead me in the right direction and care about me. My ex not so much. Do I love her yea I always will. But once the trust is gone and you don't feel that they ever cared about you what is left? Desire. Dreams. Hopes. There may have been love in the relationship. She might have loved me. I don't really care at this point. Loving someone isn't giving up on someone or something you had. It's working through the difficult times. I trusted her with everything I had. I would have done anything for her. But I could have laid back while she was replacing me and not said anything for a chance she would choose me but what kind of life is that? Is that really someone you would want to be with or have a child with or marry? Someone who could just throw you away like yesterday's trash. Not me at least.
Title: Re: are they more likely to recycle quicker if at all if u didn't catch on to their Post by: emancipated on January 07, 2015, 08:06:17 PM To be candid i really dont have a good relationship w my family and don't have really anyone to rely on... I didn't say I wanted her back ... however it was simply a curiosity
Title: Re: are they more likely to recycle quicker if at all if u didn't catch on to their Post by: Xidion on January 07, 2015, 08:16:49 PM Well, I straight up told my ex that I thought she had BPD. Two months later we recycled for a week. That was just a couple days ago. So, in my case, it didn't matter. She knows I think there is something wrong with her
Title: Re: are they more likely to recycle quicker if at all if u didn't catch on to their Post by: Confused? on January 07, 2015, 08:19:16 PM Even if you have people to rely on, nobody gets it but the people that have been through it. Every pwBPD is different. Some recycle, some move on and never look back. Every story on this site is similar but unique. A lot of people on here recycled myself included. It just depends on the pwBPD. Marriage could be a trigger for your ex. You could get a call next week. Lol
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